backbreaker
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is it better to actually stay as a friend, or to move on completely?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
opinion...when you get LJBF'ed
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
yunghova35
Don Juan
It really all depends see as a friend you can have the chick introduce you to her friends and go out with her to clubs and use her to pick up more chicks.
I would personally just move on cuz i dont see the purpose in being a FRIEND with a chick, but i've never been LJBF'ed either
I would personally just move on cuz i dont see the purpose in being a FRIEND with a chick, but i've never been LJBF'ed either
TillTheEndOfTime
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It's better to just move on completely. Every time you see her you're going to remember and that is going to hurt your game.Originally posted by backbreaker
is it better to actually stay as a friend, or to move on completely?
Of course the girl will try to convince you otherwise because you're still valuable to her as emotional support and attention when she's not getting any. Don't listen.
it also depends on the terms in which you've been LJBF was it a rejection LJBF or was it a LJBF after an ecounter.
there's a lot of ways to look at it but some of the time depending on the situaiton the whole LJBF is a defnese mechanisim.. unless you tried to put a move on her and she rejected you with LJBF in that case its pretty set in stone
there's a lot of ways to look at it but some of the time depending on the situaiton the whole LJBF is a defnese mechanisim.. unless you tried to put a move on her and she rejected you with LJBF in that case its pretty set in stone
backbreaker
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basically I got tired of this girl acting like she likes me, and asked her did she like me or not, said LJBF, and I told her if that was the case I have to move on, I don't have "friends" that are women that I want to have sex with, because you really can't be a real friend.
Wanted to know if you thought I went a little overboard, because she does.
Wanted to know if you thought I went a little overboard, because she does.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
see i've been LJBF'ed on those terms also well not EXACTLY those terms, like we were "talking" and they said i wanna get to know you better first and be friends before anything happens IF anything happens.Originally posted by backbreaker
basically I got tired of this girl acting like she likes me, and asked her did she like me or not, said LJBF, and I told her if that was the case I have to move on, I don't have "friends" that are women that I want to have sex with, because you really can't be a real friend.
Wanted to know if you thought I went a little overboard, because she does.
never just.. "well lets just be friends" but i dunno i mean its not like you got flat out rejected maybe you did jump the gun a little, on the flip side you do what makes you feel good
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
Sure I'd be her friend that's no big deal. Ofcourse I'm not one of those friends who keeps in touch all that much. I've got well over 100 names in my phone but I'd say I acutally speak to less then 5 of those "friends" on a regular basis.
It's easy to lose touch with "freinds" so a girl who's your friend can still just be your friend, but I doubt you'll talk to her all that much afterwards.
It's easy to lose touch with "freinds" so a girl who's your friend can still just be your friend, but I doubt you'll talk to her all that much afterwards.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
i see what you mean, kinda have it both ways
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I like your bluntness. I would move on.