A girl who graduated same school as me hb7, couple years behind, likes almost every single picture of me on FB and instagram recently uploaded. I have never personally had a conversation with her, but have seen her in the local watering hole a few times recently. I don't think I'm overthinking the situation at all, and was curious about solid openers or just leave it alone til I see her in person. I have not had any experience with trying to pick up dates on social media. All game has been strictly in person.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Opening with girl on Facebook
- Thread starter PipeDope
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Thorninmyside
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Keep it to in-person if you see her regularly. You really do increase your odds that way, especially if she does like you. She'll be happy to meet you by chance. Chicks love destiny and all that sh*t.
Challenge her to a game of pool, and when you kick her ass, neg her with "Like THAT on facebook!".
Challenge her to a game of pool, and when you kick her ass, neg her with "Like THAT on facebook!".
Thorninmyside
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In that case I would a) keep talking to other girls and b) open this girl up on FB if you must, but hastily get it into the real world. Don't engage in long FB conversations. For Example:
PipeDope: Hey! That was you at the pub last week wasn't it? I'm thinking of kicking someone's ass at pool this Thursday. How about taking me on?
HB: lol, love heart, stupid boring reply, how are you etc
PD: I don't really use FB much so gimme your number and we'll set something up this week. ttys.
Feel free to do much better than from the top of my head.
PipeDope: Hey! That was you at the pub last week wasn't it? I'm thinking of kicking someone's ass at pool this Thursday. How about taking me on?
HB: lol, love heart, stupid boring reply, how are you etc
PD: I don't really use FB much so gimme your number and we'll set something up this week. ttys.
Feel free to do much better than from the top of my head.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.