A girl who graduated same school as me hb7, couple years behind, likes almost every single picture of me on FB and instagram recently uploaded. I have never personally had a conversation with her, but have seen her in the local watering hole a few times recently. I don't think I'm overthinking the situation at all, and was curious about solid openers or just leave it alone til I see her in person. I have not had any experience with trying to pick up dates on social media. All game has been strictly in person.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Opening with girl on Facebook
- Thread starter PipeDope
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Thorninmyside
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Keep it to in-person if you see her regularly. You really do increase your odds that way, especially if she does like you. She'll be happy to meet you by chance. Chicks love destiny and all that sh*t.
Challenge her to a game of pool, and when you kick her ass, neg her with "Like THAT on facebook!".
Challenge her to a game of pool, and when you kick her ass, neg her with "Like THAT on facebook!".
Thorninmyside
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In that case I would a) keep talking to other girls and b) open this girl up on FB if you must, but hastily get it into the real world. Don't engage in long FB conversations. For Example:
PipeDope: Hey! That was you at the pub last week wasn't it? I'm thinking of kicking someone's ass at pool this Thursday. How about taking me on?
HB: lol, love heart, stupid boring reply, how are you etc
PD: I don't really use FB much so gimme your number and we'll set something up this week. ttys.
Feel free to do much better than from the top of my head.
PipeDope: Hey! That was you at the pub last week wasn't it? I'm thinking of kicking someone's ass at pool this Thursday. How about taking me on?
HB: lol, love heart, stupid boring reply, how are you etc
PD: I don't really use FB much so gimme your number and we'll set something up this week. ttys.
Feel free to do much better than from the top of my head.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.