A girl who graduated same school as me hb7, couple years behind, likes almost every single picture of me on FB and instagram recently uploaded. I have never personally had a conversation with her, but have seen her in the local watering hole a few times recently. I don't think I'm overthinking the situation at all, and was curious about solid openers or just leave it alone til I see her in person. I have not had any experience with trying to pick up dates on social media. All game has been strictly in person.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Opening with girl on Facebook
- Thread starter PipeDope
- Start date
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Thorninmyside
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Keep it to in-person if you see her regularly. You really do increase your odds that way, especially if she does like you. She'll be happy to meet you by chance. Chicks love destiny and all that sh*t.
Challenge her to a game of pool, and when you kick her ass, neg her with "Like THAT on facebook!".
Challenge her to a game of pool, and when you kick her ass, neg her with "Like THAT on facebook!".
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In that case I would a) keep talking to other girls and b) open this girl up on FB if you must, but hastily get it into the real world. Don't engage in long FB conversations. For Example:
PipeDope: Hey! That was you at the pub last week wasn't it? I'm thinking of kicking someone's ass at pool this Thursday. How about taking me on?
HB: lol, love heart, stupid boring reply, how are you etc
PD: I don't really use FB much so gimme your number and we'll set something up this week. ttys.
Feel free to do much better than from the top of my head.
PipeDope: Hey! That was you at the pub last week wasn't it? I'm thinking of kicking someone's ass at pool this Thursday. How about taking me on?
HB: lol, love heart, stupid boring reply, how are you etc
PD: I don't really use FB much so gimme your number and we'll set something up this week. ttys.
Feel free to do much better than from the top of my head.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.