A girl who graduated same school as me hb7, couple years behind, likes almost every single picture of me on FB and instagram recently uploaded. I have never personally had a conversation with her, but have seen her in the local watering hole a few times recently. I don't think I'm overthinking the situation at all, and was curious about solid openers or just leave it alone til I see her in person. I have not had any experience with trying to pick up dates on social media. All game has been strictly in person.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Opening with girl on Facebook
- Thread starter PipeDope
- Start date
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Thorninmyside
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Keep it to in-person if you see her regularly. You really do increase your odds that way, especially if she does like you. She'll be happy to meet you by chance. Chicks love destiny and all that sh*t.
Challenge her to a game of pool, and when you kick her ass, neg her with "Like THAT on facebook!".
Challenge her to a game of pool, and when you kick her ass, neg her with "Like THAT on facebook!".
Thorninmyside
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In that case I would a) keep talking to other girls and b) open this girl up on FB if you must, but hastily get it into the real world. Don't engage in long FB conversations. For Example:
PipeDope: Hey! That was you at the pub last week wasn't it? I'm thinking of kicking someone's ass at pool this Thursday. How about taking me on?
HB: lol, love heart, stupid boring reply, how are you etc
PD: I don't really use FB much so gimme your number and we'll set something up this week. ttys.
Feel free to do much better than from the top of my head.
PipeDope: Hey! That was you at the pub last week wasn't it? I'm thinking of kicking someone's ass at pool this Thursday. How about taking me on?
HB: lol, love heart, stupid boring reply, how are you etc
PD: I don't really use FB much so gimme your number and we'll set something up this week. ttys.
Feel free to do much better than from the top of my head.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.