Yup, cuz dudes are ALWAYS successful approaching women at the gym.. I mean, there's literally thread after thread about how easy, and natural that is right.... -________-
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Online dating experts, I need your help
- Thread starter bigdave17
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
so I'm always positive I screwed this up. I found her on plenty of fish three times today. Why is she on dating website if this is not the right time to go on dates?
But what I can't figure out is how she lost interest in 24 hours. She texted me yesterday that she was looking forward to seeing me. She seemed very interested overall - was texting me constantly
Very strange
But what I can't figure out is how she lost interest in 24 hours. She texted me yesterday that she was looking forward to seeing me. She seemed very interested overall - was texting me constantly
Very strange
Here's what happened. She asked me about working out and I said I'm big time into it and went into a little detail. She then told me she is currently the heaviest she has ever been but is trying hard to cut weight - she's on a huge calorie restricted diet. She told me she's trying hard to lose weight. Then we had a very big discussion about losing weight and I just gave her a ton of advice as I went into detail of how I lost weight myself (I've cut probably 80 lbs in last 10 years). I was very positive and supportive. She said "I'm not fat though I promise" - and I said "it's cool, I'm sure you're beautiful in real life". I never said anything judgmental or negative
outside of that, all our conversation was very straight forward. Just getting to know each other
You would of seen her on POF three times today even if you HAD went on the date. Did you stay off POF, just because you were talking to her?.. and she said now's not the time to go on dates, she didn't say I don't want to talk to anyone anymore
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Dont approach babes In the gym. Pretty simple.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I see tons of hot latinas at my gym
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Let them choose
Igetit!
Moderator
Did you REALLY say that to her?
Dude...you're oblivious. You can't see YOURSELF. That woman did herself A HUGE favor by staying away from you.
Other people were saying something like this would happen,but I thought it'd at least be after a date or two. People kept trying to warn you,but you're too blind and dense to listen.....you were warned ALL THROUGHOUT this thread. I noticed a red flag in YOUR behavior,in the way you kept describing how you and this girl interacted.....there was one thing you kept saying over and over again...you said it 3 times in a row,then said it again later on....
You kept going on about how you and this chick would get along like "best friends"...said it over and over again. First time you said it,I kinda paused for a second.....then just let it go on. Second time,I was like,"Uh oh....:,then the third time I was like,"Oh sh1t". I personally never said anything cause I learned long ago talking to you is pointless,but someone here did bring up. You of course brushed it aside and went along your merry way.....not seeing THE CLIFF out in front of you that you were headed straight towards.
Dude...you are BLIND. I've never seen anyone as blind as you. And the irony is,what you are blind to,the ENTIRE FORUM SEES.
You want to know if you somehow blew the potential date with this girl? Yeah....I say yes you did.
You wanna know how? Simple.... You blew it by simply being YOURSELF. It's one thing to be blind. You are a blind FOOL.
And even now.....I bet you have NO IDEA what you did that caused this to fall apart. I know you don't...it's cause you're blind. You ignore EVERY ATTEMPT people try in order to help you see.
It's just mindboggling to see this entire forum offer and try to push on you glasses,jugs,buckets,and containers full of water...yet you stand in the midst of everyone dying of thirst.
You made a thread today,(I guess I should specify which one,since you make so many),called "I'm realizing 2 huge problems within myself". If you want to know what likely happened here,go back and read your OWN thread...your OWN words. Your 1st post was two paragraphs...you need to look at the second. You seem to think that you.....the REAL you...the guy who's here on this forum...that you can somehow hide that "Dave" from women and put up this masculine facade and the chicks won't notice....but the real you keeps leaking out.
No way you should be this clueless about to hit 30.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
She must have found out that you were posting her picture in a men's forum and talking about her like a future wife.
Little bit of a creep factor.
lamath
Master Don Juan
Idk but there is something with Dave
I asked him before but i think he is prob a high functioning autism
Something in the way he dont get the subtle stuff or joke ppl make.
Im am hoping things work out for him but he really need to educate himself and start thinking from the other people perspective.
I asked him before but i think he is prob a high functioning autism
Something in the way he dont get the subtle stuff or joke ppl make.
Im am hoping things work out for him but he really need to educate himself and start thinking from the other people perspective.
May be he does have autism or some psychological issue. I'm seriously contemplating putting him on my ignore list (my first!) because I'm simply exhausted with all his drama here and yet there has been no change in him whatsoever. There's really nothing more to say or do like @Igetit! said. If I were a mod I'd take away his 'new thread' creating privileges.
lamath
Master Don Juan
i dont think i ever saw him post in a thread he didnt create.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
that message was a hail mary after the fact. It was already dead by then so it didn't matter
the rest of our messages were very routine for the most part. The only thing I regret was getting into a big discussion about diet and training because I fear I made her feel insecure... but she herself volunteered the info about being overweight and wanting to get into shape. Otherwise we talked about movies, TV shows, food, work, family, very normal stuff. I showed interest when it was natural after she showed it. I didn't go all emotional gaga over her. I deleted all the messages already but I almost wish I didn't. You guys could see all my messages were very "normal".
the last woman I went out with was this beautiful 35 year old woman. We went out for 2 months, every date was very smooth and she was very heavily into me. I stopped seeing her cause she was a single mom
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I see his point
but he thinks that all our interactions were like that. None of our interactions were like that. I know damn well that showing too much interest/eagerness makes you look very soft and weak as a male
I mostly only showed interest after she showed it first
lamath
Master Don Juan
good for you
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.