Yup, cuz dudes are ALWAYS successful approaching women at the gym.. I mean, there's literally thread after thread about how easy, and natural that is right.... -________-
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Online dating experts, I need your help
- Thread starter bigdave17
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
so I'm always positive I screwed this up. I found her on plenty of fish three times today. Why is she on dating website if this is not the right time to go on dates?
But what I can't figure out is how she lost interest in 24 hours. She texted me yesterday that she was looking forward to seeing me. She seemed very interested overall - was texting me constantly
Very strange
But what I can't figure out is how she lost interest in 24 hours. She texted me yesterday that she was looking forward to seeing me. She seemed very interested overall - was texting me constantly
Very strange
Here's what happened. She asked me about working out and I said I'm big time into it and went into a little detail. She then told me she is currently the heaviest she has ever been but is trying hard to cut weight - she's on a huge calorie restricted diet. She told me she's trying hard to lose weight. Then we had a very big discussion about losing weight and I just gave her a ton of advice as I went into detail of how I lost weight myself (I've cut probably 80 lbs in last 10 years). I was very positive and supportive. She said "I'm not fat though I promise" - and I said "it's cool, I'm sure you're beautiful in real life". I never said anything judgmental or negative
outside of that, all our conversation was very straight forward. Just getting to know each other
You would of seen her on POF three times today even if you HAD went on the date. Did you stay off POF, just because you were talking to her?.. and she said now's not the time to go on dates, she didn't say I don't want to talk to anyone anymore
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Dont approach babes In the gym. Pretty simple.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I see tons of hot latinas at my gym
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Let them choose
Igetit!
Moderator
Did you REALLY say that to her?
Dude...you're oblivious. You can't see YOURSELF. That woman did herself A HUGE favor by staying away from you.
Other people were saying something like this would happen,but I thought it'd at least be after a date or two. People kept trying to warn you,but you're too blind and dense to listen.....you were warned ALL THROUGHOUT this thread. I noticed a red flag in YOUR behavior,in the way you kept describing how you and this girl interacted.....there was one thing you kept saying over and over again...you said it 3 times in a row,then said it again later on....
You kept going on about how you and this chick would get along like "best friends"...said it over and over again. First time you said it,I kinda paused for a second.....then just let it go on. Second time,I was like,"Uh oh....:,then the third time I was like,"Oh sh1t". I personally never said anything cause I learned long ago talking to you is pointless,but someone here did bring up. You of course brushed it aside and went along your merry way.....not seeing THE CLIFF out in front of you that you were headed straight towards.
Dude...you are BLIND. I've never seen anyone as blind as you. And the irony is,what you are blind to,the ENTIRE FORUM SEES.
You want to know if you somehow blew the potential date with this girl? Yeah....I say yes you did.
You wanna know how? Simple.... You blew it by simply being YOURSELF. It's one thing to be blind. You are a blind FOOL.
And even now.....I bet you have NO IDEA what you did that caused this to fall apart. I know you don't...it's cause you're blind. You ignore EVERY ATTEMPT people try in order to help you see.
It's just mindboggling to see this entire forum offer and try to push on you glasses,jugs,buckets,and containers full of water...yet you stand in the midst of everyone dying of thirst.
You made a thread today,(I guess I should specify which one,since you make so many),called "I'm realizing 2 huge problems within myself". If you want to know what likely happened here,go back and read your OWN thread...your OWN words. Your 1st post was two paragraphs...you need to look at the second. You seem to think that you.....the REAL you...the guy who's here on this forum...that you can somehow hide that "Dave" from women and put up this masculine facade and the chicks won't notice....but the real you keeps leaking out.
No way you should be this clueless about to hit 30.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
She must have found out that you were posting her picture in a men's forum and talking about her like a future wife.
Little bit of a creep factor.
lamath
Master Don Juan
Idk but there is something with Dave
I asked him before but i think he is prob a high functioning autism
Something in the way he dont get the subtle stuff or joke ppl make.
Im am hoping things work out for him but he really need to educate himself and start thinking from the other people perspective.
I asked him before but i think he is prob a high functioning autism
Something in the way he dont get the subtle stuff or joke ppl make.
Im am hoping things work out for him but he really need to educate himself and start thinking from the other people perspective.
May be he does have autism or some psychological issue. I'm seriously contemplating putting him on my ignore list (my first!) because I'm simply exhausted with all his drama here and yet there has been no change in him whatsoever. There's really nothing more to say or do like @Igetit! said. If I were a mod I'd take away his 'new thread' creating privileges.
lamath
Master Don Juan
i dont think i ever saw him post in a thread he didnt create.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
that message was a hail mary after the fact. It was already dead by then so it didn't matter
the rest of our messages were very routine for the most part. The only thing I regret was getting into a big discussion about diet and training because I fear I made her feel insecure... but she herself volunteered the info about being overweight and wanting to get into shape. Otherwise we talked about movies, TV shows, food, work, family, very normal stuff. I showed interest when it was natural after she showed it. I didn't go all emotional gaga over her. I deleted all the messages already but I almost wish I didn't. You guys could see all my messages were very "normal".
the last woman I went out with was this beautiful 35 year old woman. We went out for 2 months, every date was very smooth and she was very heavily into me. I stopped seeing her cause she was a single mom
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I see his point
but he thinks that all our interactions were like that. None of our interactions were like that. I know damn well that showing too much interest/eagerness makes you look very soft and weak as a male
I mostly only showed interest after she showed it first
lamath
Master Don Juan
good for you
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.