sazc
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People get cold feet, people only wanted the attention, she's not the girl in the picture, she's insecure
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Online dating experts, I need your help
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
sazc
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this is why you're supposed to get her comfortable and make the date for coffee asap and then go fairly quiet, checking in once or so
desperation? she texted me 2 or 3 times that she was excited to see me. I never said anything about being excited to see her, I totally played it cool. The only time I showed interest was right after she showed it first.
Experiences with garbage doesn't help me whatsoever. I've been with 12-15 women way below my league, didn't help me. Being with another 50 of the garbage won't help me either
holy fk finding someone who is attractive and compatible on these dating sites is so hard. By compatible, I mean I'm not dating
- vegans
- feminists
- hardcore liberals
- tattoo/piercing freaks
- women who can't spell properly
- religious broads
none of that garbage. I want an attractive woman with a decent body who is not a wackjob
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I'm going to hire a professional photographer in next few weeks, I need to get somebody to take some great pics of myself that show a realistic image of how I look in real life.
Do you guys that will make any real difference?
Do you guys that will make any real difference?
This is an excellent idea. I've had friends and acquaintances do this and it makes a significant difference. Ask to see their portfolio and definitely shop and compare. Heck I'm thinking about doing this if I create an online dating account.
how big of a difference?
Did they manage to get hotties online?
For me, what makes it so difficult, is to trying to find a good looking woman I'm compatible with. I just saw a hot chick on match.com...read her profile, ***** has 4 dogs. Jesus christ, no thanks
mrgoodstuff
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He killed his self worrying about they got along great on a million subjects. Worrying about haveing a baby. Worry about fvcking her like a normal guy and the world will open up.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
sazc
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@LARaiders85 beta af
mrgoodstuff
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Incel pain
I have to look at the current situation and realize this is 100% my fault
I've put very minimal effort into dating for 29 years and received very minimal results. Now I'm finally willing to put in some effort for it and I want results ASAP, life doesn't work that way
I'm going to continue to cut weight hard, take some professional pics and hopefully approach some women in real life. I need to approach women at my gym. That seems to be my best bet
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Never tried online dating as never believed into it. Does it works tho?
sazc
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Dude sends me a text like this? I know I'm running this show, b1tch!
You're fairly accurate about your assessment there but let's not forget you've been here since Oct 2017 yet you've learned nothing, I mean zero! The mistakes you made in just a couple of text exchanges that you've posted here tells me you're not even here to learn because you have this attitude that boils down to:
1. I know it all
2. I'm entitled to a hottie
3. I want quick, no effort solutions
...and with that my friend, it'll be 2027 and you'll still be asking posting the same crap. So my sincerest advice for you is to not post anything and just observe and learn. Meanwhile, get a good shrink, I'm not kidding at all. I really feel you need one. Sure work on your body and pics but that's not the big problem Dave. It's your attitude.
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I seriously cringed when I saw that (but didn't want to call him out as I didn't want to read about a suicide in the papers) but we can only guess what other gems were exchanged over the last week for her to realize this will be a dead end why waste time. Even if that's not the reason he has so much to improve but he just won't because he's stubborn af.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.