sazc
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People get cold feet, people only wanted the attention, she's not the girl in the picture, she's insecure
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Online dating experts, I need your help
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
sazc
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this is why you're supposed to get her comfortable and make the date for coffee asap and then go fairly quiet, checking in once or so
desperation? she texted me 2 or 3 times that she was excited to see me. I never said anything about being excited to see her, I totally played it cool. The only time I showed interest was right after she showed it first.
Experiences with garbage doesn't help me whatsoever. I've been with 12-15 women way below my league, didn't help me. Being with another 50 of the garbage won't help me either
holy fk finding someone who is attractive and compatible on these dating sites is so hard. By compatible, I mean I'm not dating
- vegans
- feminists
- hardcore liberals
- tattoo/piercing freaks
- women who can't spell properly
- religious broads
none of that garbage. I want an attractive woman with a decent body who is not a wackjob
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I'm going to hire a professional photographer in next few weeks, I need to get somebody to take some great pics of myself that show a realistic image of how I look in real life.
Do you guys that will make any real difference?
Do you guys that will make any real difference?
This is an excellent idea. I've had friends and acquaintances do this and it makes a significant difference. Ask to see their portfolio and definitely shop and compare. Heck I'm thinking about doing this if I create an online dating account.
how big of a difference?
Did they manage to get hotties online?
For me, what makes it so difficult, is to trying to find a good looking woman I'm compatible with. I just saw a hot chick on match.com...read her profile, ***** has 4 dogs. Jesus christ, no thanks
mrgoodstuff
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He killed his self worrying about they got along great on a million subjects. Worrying about haveing a baby. Worry about fvcking her like a normal guy and the world will open up.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
sazc
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@LARaiders85 beta af
mrgoodstuff
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Incel pain
I have to look at the current situation and realize this is 100% my fault
I've put very minimal effort into dating for 29 years and received very minimal results. Now I'm finally willing to put in some effort for it and I want results ASAP, life doesn't work that way
I'm going to continue to cut weight hard, take some professional pics and hopefully approach some women in real life. I need to approach women at my gym. That seems to be my best bet
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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Never tried online dating as never believed into it. Does it works tho?
sazc
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Dude sends me a text like this? I know I'm running this show, b1tch!
You're fairly accurate about your assessment there but let's not forget you've been here since Oct 2017 yet you've learned nothing, I mean zero! The mistakes you made in just a couple of text exchanges that you've posted here tells me you're not even here to learn because you have this attitude that boils down to:
1. I know it all
2. I'm entitled to a hottie
3. I want quick, no effort solutions
...and with that my friend, it'll be 2027 and you'll still be asking posting the same crap. So my sincerest advice for you is to not post anything and just observe and learn. Meanwhile, get a good shrink, I'm not kidding at all. I really feel you need one. Sure work on your body and pics but that's not the big problem Dave. It's your attitude.
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I seriously cringed when I saw that (but didn't want to call him out as I didn't want to read about a suicide in the papers) but we can only guess what other gems were exchanged over the last week for her to realize this will be a dead end why waste time. Even if that's not the reason he has so much to improve but he just won't because he's stubborn af.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.