"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Oneitis

Bawb14

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What is it.... i have searched for like 30 minutes now I cant find an article which actually states what it is! From what I gather it's when you get attached to one chick, right?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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brian123

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It's when you focus on just one girl. I had that recently. Not good. You always want to have a few options.
 

Bawb14

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Two extremes there shezz! How about going on 2.5 week gf haha
 

brian123

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If you are exclusive with the girl, IMHO there is nothing wrong with oneitis.

The trap many fall into is when they are dating, or looking to date a certain girl and just focus on her.

I've done that, it just drives them away faster.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Shezz said:
It's not bad per se. It depends on who the girl is and the type of relationship you have.

One-itis focusses on a girl that you barely know, and probably have never talked to. Or it could be a girl that you've talked to in the past, but messed up through inane conversation or desperate actions. Either way, you are probably not going to get laid.

On the other hand, if you've been seeing a girl for years and she is your only love. That could be describe as a one-itis, and that would be good.

Sarge On...

Oneitis can also be a girl you dated and are trying to get back. And then she starts taking up all your thoughts and usually she's rejecting you.

That's the worse type of oneitis right there.
 

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Its true, oneitis is bad if youre not in a relationship because you just focus on one girl and when things get rough with her or it breaks off completely youre left feeling like S***. A cute girl LOST ME recently, it didnt bother me cause I have 3 others on the go;) if it was me last december, I would have been an emo kid everyday.
 
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