"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Oneitis

Bawb14

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What is it.... i have searched for like 30 minutes now I cant find an article which actually states what it is! From what I gather it's when you get attached to one chick, right?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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brian123

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It's when you focus on just one girl. I had that recently. Not good. You always want to have a few options.
 

Bawb14

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Two extremes there shezz! How about going on 2.5 week gf haha
 

brian123

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If you are exclusive with the girl, IMHO there is nothing wrong with oneitis.

The trap many fall into is when they are dating, or looking to date a certain girl and just focus on her.

I've done that, it just drives them away faster.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Shezz said:
It's not bad per se. It depends on who the girl is and the type of relationship you have.

One-itis focusses on a girl that you barely know, and probably have never talked to. Or it could be a girl that you've talked to in the past, but messed up through inane conversation or desperate actions. Either way, you are probably not going to get laid.

On the other hand, if you've been seeing a girl for years and she is your only love. That could be describe as a one-itis, and that would be good.

Sarge On...

Oneitis can also be a girl you dated and are trying to get back. And then she starts taking up all your thoughts and usually she's rejecting you.

That's the worse type of oneitis right there.
 

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Its true, oneitis is bad if youre not in a relationship because you just focus on one girl and when things get rough with her or it breaks off completely youre left feeling like S***. A cute girl LOST ME recently, it didnt bother me cause I have 3 others on the go;) if it was me last december, I would have been an emo kid everyday.
 
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