You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I'm not so sure about that. Bruce Lee trained hard, for hours, EVERY single day. All that training is worth something. It wasn't just a sport, martial arts was his entire life. I don't know about a Bruce Lee vs. BJ Penn fight, but Bruce Lee versus someone in the UFC of his same weight class would probably be a damn good fight. No one can deny that Lee was one hell of a striker and accurate as f*ck. Plus you look at the physique he had and the dude was in incredible shape. If he was alive today, he'd get some BJJ under his belt, and I think he'd do hella damage in the cage.lookyoung said:Bruce lee himself was a phony. He was all myth. Get a guy like bj penn and he would kill bruce lee.
lookyoung said:I am 5"11 190 pounds and a blue belt in brazilian jiu-jitsu. I bet you a 100,000 dollars I would crack his fvcking head.
Do you think these karate, kung-fu idiots could take on a real mma fighter.
No way.
I would take a highschool football linebacker to embarass him. He is just a punk bully.
Bruce lee himself was a phony. He was all myth. Get a guy like bj penn and he would kill bruce lee.
The gracie family has revolutionized martial arts. Bruce lee did not do anything for martial arts he was a conman.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Did anyone here actually see bruce lee fight? Post some footage. I am skeptical about a guy who has never fought anyone. Bruce lee was great in katas and breaking boards, hitting a heavy bag. But until your in a real fight you can't say someone is a champion.speakeasy said:I'm not so sure about that. Bruce Lee trained hard, for hours, EVERY single day. All that training is worth something. It wasn't just a sport, martial arts was his entire life. I don't know about a Bruce Lee vs. BJ Penn fight, but Bruce Lee versus someone in the UFC of his same weight class would probably be a damn good fight. No one can deny that Lee was one hell of a striker and accurate as f*ck. Plus you look at the physique he had and the dude was in incredible shape. If he was alive today, he'd get some BJJ under his belt, and I think he'd do hella damage in the cage.
You will not find any one in the UFC who claims one style as his own. Chuck Liddell has a black belt in Karate. I'm sure he has incorporated some of that Karate training into his overall style when he throws his occasional kick. As for TKD, I've seen the reverse back kick work in the UFC and that is taken from TKD. Pretty much every martial art has at least some moves that would be effective in the cage.lookyoung said:Did anyone here actually see bruce lee fight? Post some footage. I am skeptical about a guy who has never fought anyone. Bruce lee was great in katas and breaking boards, hitting a heavy bag. But until your in a real fight you can't say someone is a champion.
That being said I agree that bruce lee would have had bjj in his disposal if he was around today. I am not sure how well he would have done in the cage. I feel that muythai is a stronger standup style than wing chun.
If karate, kungfu and all those other arts were so good than how come there is not even one UFC fighter who uses that garbage.
JOE rogan who was a US national champion in TKD said it himseld that it is a useless martial art.
Uh, where do you think all of those techniques came from? The Gracies didn't invent any of them. You'll see them all in traditional Jujutsu ryh-ha that came along hundred of years before the Gracies.lookyoung said:I am 5"11 190 pounds and a blue belt in brazilian jiu-jitsu. I bet you a 100,000 dollars I would crack his fvcking head.
Do you think these karate, kung-fu idiots could take on a real mma fighter.
No way.
I would take a highschool football linebacker to embarass him. He is just a punk bully.
Bruce lee himself was a phony. He was all myth. Get a guy like bj penn and he would kill bruce lee.
The gracie family has revolutionized martial arts. Bruce lee did not do anything for martial arts he was a conman.
Pretty much. MMA has become a "style" all its own. And no one "style" can dominate all other "styles", although that's what many martial artists would have you believe. Saying you can beat someone because you have a better fighting style than them is like saying you can draw better than someone because you have a sharper pencil.Suicide said:That said, you obviously know nothing about real martial arts or the UFC. MMA is designed to conform to UFC rules, period. Take it out of the octagon and it's a whole different story.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Not the gun crap again. I mean unless you routinely go fighting gangbangers, what's the chance of seeing someone pull out a gun in a normal first fight? And even still, I wouldn't consider it "winning" to shoot somebody in a fight, unless winning means going to jail and getting ass raped in prision.squirrels said:Not to mention that in any street fight, the person who wins is the first one with a gun.![]()
Depends on what kind of "fight" you're talking about.speakeasy said:Not the gun crap again. I mean unless you routinely go fighting gangbangers, what's the chance of seeing someone pull out a gun in a normal first fight? And even still, I wouldn't consider it "winning" to shoot somebody in a fight, unless winning means going to jail and getting ass raped in prision.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
UFC is boring as hell. For 2 guys who know their sh!t, all the UFC is is a race to see who can get the other guy on the mat and wrestling until one can choke off the other's air supply.lookyoung said:If karate, kungfu and all those other arts were so good than how come there is not even one UFC fighter who uses that garbage.
@Rudra - QUANOUYF! ICBPWUALTAATUTI.Rudra said:@squirrels - QFT!
I guess that explains all the pools of blood you see on a octagon floor. Did you see the Couture/Gonzaga fight? That wasn't enough action for you???Rollo Tomassi said:UFC is boring as hell. For 2 guys who know their sh!t, all the UFC is is a race to see who can get the other guy on the mat and wrestling until one can choke off the other's air supply.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.