"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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one of many fears

spider_007

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In the middle of all the teasing and all, are you guys ever afraid the gurll might go psycho on you? I mean start screaming at you because your making fun of her, and saying all those "mean" things

I got the "sarcastic" sence of humor. The thing is i'm afraid of pushing my "jerk" values too far.

ever happened to anybody (on the first few meets)?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I have reduced women to tears in the middle of a venue - more than once. After a while you just figure out where the line is.
 

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Originally posted by spider_007
In the middle of all the teasing and all, are you guys ever afraid the gurll might go psycho on you? I mean start screaming at you because your making fun of her, and saying all those "mean" things

I got the "sarcastic" sence of humor. The thing is i'm afraid of pushing my "jerk" values too far.

ever happened to anybody (on the first few meets)?

:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:

god i used CF back in the days before i even knew of such a concept!!
i would bust on a girl RELENTLESSLY!
this one girl ,god did i get under her skin. she'd fret and fume
all over the place..her face would turn red, she'd get all huffy,
cross her arms and pout.

the part i think David D left out was the part were you kinda chase after them after pissing them off.

you know when they are kinda quiet and pout, i always just go out to them and "act cute" to kinda defuse them and make them
feel better (you'll be SUPRISED how being all sweet & cuddly with chicks when they are pissed can totally defuse them!) and then later on do it again relentlessly!! god i am a prick!
:crackup:

it's a cycle of teasing and chasing-
i always did this so it comes natural to me.
you know when you are kinda mad at a girl
but when make up after a "talk" you just feel better?
thats the type of feeling.

as far as being seen as an a$$hole i personally don't care...
i have yet to meet a chick i can't defuse that i pissed off
from teasing her...
i just avoid saying anything really mean or personal and it's cool
 
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