"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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On Speaking W-O-M-A-N-E-S-E and foreigners

Being_the_Don

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We know that women don't tell us directly what they're thinking and use that language known as W-O-M-A-N-E-S-E. If you've read that in the Book of Pook it's quite a laugh and very useful. But what about women who don't speak English as their first language? They still would use it but their lack of language skills could get in the way. Like using W-O-M-A-N-E-S-E on them. Can a woman who speaks Spanish, Chinese or German for example get the subtle hints of W-O-M-A-N-E-S-E in English? I say they can but it's more of a challenge to drop the hints to them eg "I'm not looking for a girlfriend now." Some might take it literally and walk away.
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I'd imagine that the way women behave when they are playing games with men is ubiqitous in all females, and trancends language and culture. It's more of an evolutionary built-in thing, as opposed to a regional or cultural difference. Although it may be harder to communicate with foreign women on a purely conversational level, I would still imagine it to be rather easy to deduce characteristics such as body language and emotion.
 

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W-h-y-a-r-e-y-o-u-s-p-e-l-l-i-n-g-i-t-l-i-k-e-w-e-a-r-e-s-t-u-p-i-d-?
 

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mrRuckus said:
W-h-y-a-r-e-y-o-u-s-p-e-l-l-i-n-g-i-t-l-i-k-e-w-e-a-r-e-s-t-u-p-i-d-?

Because I found out that I couldn't type ********. It's censored. See?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Some kind of copyright thing with Doc Love, who invented the term.

Anyhow, the average foreign woman is even MORE indirect than the native English speaker. You will get more w-oman-ese.

They just don't have the fluency/comfort to say things bluntly. East Asians can be dam hard to read.
 
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