"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Gents and other creatures,

I have been enjoying myself over in the fitness section, highly recommend it :D Good guys over there. To the core matter of my post, I got a girl pregnant. We have been in an open relationship and riding bareback, things happen. You're welcome to rant. I'm not writing this post to take a rant about my choices but just let people know what I did so they have somewhere to start. First talk of pregnancy was when the condom was about to come off. I asked what she thought and of the consequences. We both agreed to deal with pregnancy with abortion and STD's in a rational manner. I got a text last nite saying we need to talk. Talk is good gents, trust me. I rang her and asked what about. Took her a bit and she said she was pregnant. I said this was a subject that required a talk and walk. I met her and we talked about her test and what she had already done. She had seen family planning and had a test by a doc. Doc said she was pregnant and seven weeks along. This explained why she felt sick and some of her grumpiness. I asked her about her abortion options with how far she had been along and timeframes. I listened to this and the rest of the story and gave my input on what I needed to. She has another appointment next Tuesday.

So that's the story so far. She didn't react badly or very emotionally as I didn't either. What I have learned so far is this is our problem not just her problem. We made a choice and we will go through this together. When you hear "I'm pregnant" it's not the end of the world. Remain calm. See her in person and talk about it in a rational manner. Keep your emotions as far away as possible. She wanted trust, and someone to look after her. This one of the big steps towards growing up as I am now responsible for someone else in a much bigger scale. Be a nice guy, throw any pick up **** out the window and fess up. It's my turn to grow up and be responsible.

I may add more to try and make a whole picture for the folks of the forum.

Good nite,
The Bandito
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Consider:

1. How do you know it's yours?

2. Have you actually seen the test results?

3. Abortion really messes up a girl's head. Adoption might cause regret later on, especially if the kid comes looking for you. Hard choices indeed.
 
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TheBandito said:
G Be a nice guy, throw any pick up **** out the window and fess up. It's my turn to grow up and be responsible.
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I want you to explain what you mean by be a nice guy, throw any pick up **** out the window and fess up.


What does that mean?

If you are an adult taking care of yourself you are already grown up and responsible. You are just taking on more responsiblity. That shaming language implies that you weren't before. Do you believe that you were a child and irresponsible before this pregnancy?


btw. I am a father, so I may have a slightly different view on this, which is why I ask.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I want you to explain what you mean by be a nice guy, throw any pick up **** out the window and fess up.


What does that mean?
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I was running around **** in hand doing as I pleased. I really didn't think as to the consequences of my actions. We know many "adults" that live by themselves, aren't bankrupt, and have a missus but are they mature?
 
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Some lyrics for you (these are actual real lyrics. The band's name is AC, which is short for two words that would get censored here. The name of the song is "You're pregnant, so I kicked you in the stomach":

There were no stairs to throw you down
There was no roof to throw you off
There were no coat hangers around
So I kicked you in the stomach


I'm sorry, I think this sh*t is funny, so I probably have a sick sense of humor haha.
 
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