"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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OMG! I've just realized the answer to everyone who's ever been nervous to approach!!!

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Have you ever been afraid to approach a beatiful woman? Are you ever nervous about getting rejected? Well, if you answered "yes" to both or either these questions, continue reading!!

This idea hit me like a ton of bricks today when I was shopping for an extra pair of versache shades. Whenever you feel fear to approach a women, just put on some shades! See, when you mask your eyes, you get a calm and secure feeling. This helps when building your confidence of approaching girls, and it can also help even if you get rejected beacuse the girl cannot see your eyes! Just use this method next time you get nervous, and start approaching more women! Do this until you're confident enough to approach them without the glasses!

:flowers: :up: :cheer: :cheer::box: :woo: :wave: :rock: :yes: :)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Yeah, but sunglasses could also convey a subtle message that you cant be trusted. When first approaching, a girl's number one question is are you a maniac who will potentially assault her or can she trust you, before she can feel attraction, etc... - and I dont think sunglasses help to that assurance, but if it works, go for it.
 

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and you couldnt do it inside b/c u look dumb and so it cuts it down by over 1/2
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I like to dress up as a squid when approaching women.

If i get rejected i simple attribute it to the fact i'm dressed up as a slimy tentacled sea creature. It really helps my confidence knowing its the squid shes rejecting and not me.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Rocker said:
I find carrying a gun helps.
best response I've heard all year.

And did you mean versace or vershace? :cool:
 

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NeonBase said:
I find wearing a turban also helps...
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:

AND:trouble: :trouble: your stupid idea.

Only people with low confidence have to hide behind props. Find your balls and gain some confidence through action.

Just another fking crutch.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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this thread shows how many sad lowlife losers post on sosuave and waste space - ****in morons
 

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Wait a minute skip, didn't you post about how you should have the personality of a bum to pick up women? I'd rather wear sunglasses at night than chase someone down the block to get a nickle or two.
 

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Skip are you becoming disenchanted with ss?
 

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skip, it might be time fore a new nick name.....that would be what, 6 or 7 by now???
 

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The sun never goes down in Cool-Town..... :rolleyes:

Isn't it about time some guys stopped leaning on gimmicks and tricks to overcoming their anxieties, and started getting to the root of the problem?

Here's an idea; Pretend you ARE wearing shades but leave them off.... the only difference is that which you make up in your own head. You should be the same with them on or off, and if you can't do that then you need to overcome it by going through the discomfort until it no longer bothers you. That's the only way to REALLY grow. Stop using a crutch.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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