"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Old member back here after a long break

Guitar_Whizz

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Hello guys, I joined these forums back in 2002, and I used to post here all the time. After 2005 I joined a lair for the north of England (very good site btw) and sort of lost touch with sosuave.com. In 2006 I got really involved with canned routines, techniques etc etc.

I'm glad to say that after a period away from here, I'm back! And I love this site because the DJ philosophy is based on a mindset and natural game, rather than techniques and canned material.

So hello to all newbies, and is there anyone here from 2002/2003/2004/2005 era?

I have had a bad run in my game lately and so I need some help and motivation from you guys, but I'm determined to sort things out.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Guitar_Whizz said:
...I'm glad to say that after a period away from here, I'm back! And I love this site because the DJ philosophy is based on a mindset and natural game, rather than techniques and canned material....
Dude!!! You really need to write a post on how relying heavily on canned material effects your game!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Guitar_Whizz

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Dude!!! You really need to write a post on how relying heavily on canned material effects your game!
Yeah good idea, I will do that soon!
 

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penkitten said:
im ok
how are you?
wth you been??
I'm fine. I've been mostly posting on a seduction lair site for the north of England (northenglandlair.com) so not really been here much. But I came to realise what a gem sosuave.com is, and I'm glad to say I'm back.

I absolutely hate canned game. Mystery Method, etc etc is all complete junk.

I'm going to write a post on how canned material affected my game soon, watch this space.

You're from the UK aren't you? Or am I mistaken? And you're a female member too if I remember rightly - your insights into seduction were very enlightening, I have lots of things I'd like to talk to you about related to dating/meeting women, I'd really appreciate your insights.
 

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Guitar_Whizz said:
I'm fine. I've been mostly posting on a seduction lair site for the north of England (northenglandlair.com) so not really been here much. But I came to realise what a gem sosuave.com is, and I'm glad to say I'm back.

I absolutely hate canned game. Mystery Method, etc etc is all complete junk.

I'm going to write a post on how canned material affected my game soon, watch this space.

You're from the UK aren't you? Or am I mistaken? And you're a female member too if I remember rightly - your insights into seduction were very enlightening, I have lots of things I'd like to talk to you about related to dating/meeting women, I'd really appreciate your insights.
glad to see you back.
i'll watch for that post.
yes, i am a female, but im from kentucky in the usa.
looking forward to hearing back from you about your recent adventures.
 
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I'm the "SAY 'NO' TO HOS" dude - AKA PuertoRican_Lover!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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