"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Old member back here after a long break

Guitar_Whizz

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Hello guys, I joined these forums back in 2002, and I used to post here all the time. After 2005 I joined a lair for the north of England (very good site btw) and sort of lost touch with sosuave.com. In 2006 I got really involved with canned routines, techniques etc etc.

I'm glad to say that after a period away from here, I'm back! And I love this site because the DJ philosophy is based on a mindset and natural game, rather than techniques and canned material.

So hello to all newbies, and is there anyone here from 2002/2003/2004/2005 era?

I have had a bad run in my game lately and so I need some help and motivation from you guys, but I'm determined to sort things out.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Guitar_Whizz said:
...I'm glad to say that after a period away from here, I'm back! And I love this site because the DJ philosophy is based on a mindset and natural game, rather than techniques and canned material....
Dude!!! You really need to write a post on how relying heavily on canned material effects your game!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Dude!!! You really need to write a post on how relying heavily on canned material effects your game!
Yeah good idea, I will do that soon!
 

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penkitten said:
im ok
how are you?
wth you been??
I'm fine. I've been mostly posting on a seduction lair site for the north of England (northenglandlair.com) so not really been here much. But I came to realise what a gem sosuave.com is, and I'm glad to say I'm back.

I absolutely hate canned game. Mystery Method, etc etc is all complete junk.

I'm going to write a post on how canned material affected my game soon, watch this space.

You're from the UK aren't you? Or am I mistaken? And you're a female member too if I remember rightly - your insights into seduction were very enlightening, I have lots of things I'd like to talk to you about related to dating/meeting women, I'd really appreciate your insights.
 

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Guitar_Whizz said:
I'm fine. I've been mostly posting on a seduction lair site for the north of England (northenglandlair.com) so not really been here much. But I came to realise what a gem sosuave.com is, and I'm glad to say I'm back.

I absolutely hate canned game. Mystery Method, etc etc is all complete junk.

I'm going to write a post on how canned material affected my game soon, watch this space.

You're from the UK aren't you? Or am I mistaken? And you're a female member too if I remember rightly - your insights into seduction were very enlightening, I have lots of things I'd like to talk to you about related to dating/meeting women, I'd really appreciate your insights.
glad to see you back.
i'll watch for that post.
yes, i am a female, but im from kentucky in the usa.
looking forward to hearing back from you about your recent adventures.
 
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I'm the "SAY 'NO' TO HOS" dude - AKA PuertoRican_Lover!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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