"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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OLD matches asking for video calls!

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bario said:
Got a few matches recently on OLD. Couple of the ladies are preferring doing a video call first than going out, due to COVID and the restrictions in the region!

I personally don't like that and find it awkward.

What's your views on this?
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Here most members tell you what they believe is acceptable, man is first and screw the female. If I were you I would try to think in her way. I would look into her way of thinking, I would stand in her shoes. I would look into her perpective.
If I were her, and I have never met you and I do not know you, I would think in catfish, you are a rapist, child abuser, crazy nut job, kidnapper....Online dating Troll...and so on.

You do know OLD is impersonal, no?

Also, some male warriors here are fighting the gender war....

So it may work and it may not work. I wouldn't mind doing the video call, after all, you dont know her either and you do not want to end up in catfish or worst, being stood up by her.
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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bario said:
Got a few matches recently on OLD. Couple of the ladies are preferring doing a video call first than going out, due to COVID and the restrictions in the region!

I personally don't like that and find it awkward.

What's your views on this?
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Sounds like BS. I don't like it at all. The only time it makes sense is if she's on the other side of the world and it's impossible to travel. Tell her to send you a video message first and, if you like it, then reply.
 
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Suave88 said:
It is not about being a convicted rapist or simply an uncaught rapist, it is about exposure.
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Yeah and imagine most rapists, nonces etc are good at hiding their true character, usually quite charming from what I've read, to build comfort and lower people's defences.

Unlikely they're wild eye maniacs that show their true colours to people.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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B80 said:
Yeah and imagine most rapists, nonces etc are good at hiding their true character, usually quite charming from what I've read, to build comfort and lower people's defences.

Unlikely they're wild eye maniacs that show their true colours to people.
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All I can tell you is my mother wouldn't do it, my sisters wouldn't do it, my cousins wouldn't do it. All of them are sane women. Unless he is trying to ask out a prostitute, he should expect this behavior from most females. Trust me, females do not understand the male's alpha way. He is trying to get her on a date, and she is trying to know who he is.
 
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