So looking for some advise on my current situation. I hooked up with this girl a while back, maybe 7 months, and did not know at the time she had a boyfriend. Hooked up then went cold after that b/c just against my ideas. Anyway we stayed friends and just 3 months ago she broke up with him, their relationship was 3 years. She recently hit me up this week about hanging out and doing some studying, which was not out of the norm because we were friends throughout. Although after that its become a daily thing, this is the 3rd time we have gone out on these "study dates" in the past 2 weeks. I want to make moves but Im skeptical on how to proceed. Inviting her out to the bar is no big deal and shes down to drink with me anytime. Do i make the move while we are at the bar, on one of these study dates, or take her out to someplace then go in?
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Krueg
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I'd be careful, she already cheated on her ex with you in the past. Now that their broken up.. she could just use you for sex, help get over her ex or make him jealous. If you only want to be fvck buddies let her know right up front. I dont think this chick is "girlfriend" material..
Appreciate the concern, I was thinking **** buddies and see where it goes. So I guess if i went that route the bar would be the scene of choice for that. I just got out of a relationship that was 2 years a few months back as well so its basically the same for each of us. My concern is that if I go for it to early, since their breakup was recent, that she might pull the " idk its just to early for me to be hooking up with other people" or some line that girls usually use after a night out with a guy to not hookup.
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Well, she did reach out to you, showing some interests, but be warned who knows why she is running to you first. Will you be her next victim???
I'd play it cool and dont come off too strong and seem desperate..Think about if she is someone even worth investing your time with.. But, this is completely up to you.
I'd play it cool and dont come off too strong and seem desperate..Think about if she is someone even worth investing your time with.. But, this is completely up to you.
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
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You sound to me like you're trying to deny that you've got some feelings for this woman, judging by how you're secretly hoping for something more. But that's just a gut feeling for me, nothing more.Swerve90 said:
That's what you think right now. But things like this could take a complete 360 turn, you know. Tread lightly.Swerve90 said: