So looking for some advise on my current situation. I hooked up with this girl a while back, maybe 7 months, and did not know at the time she had a boyfriend. Hooked up then went cold after that b/c just against my ideas. Anyway we stayed friends and just 3 months ago she broke up with him, their relationship was 3 years. She recently hit me up this week about hanging out and doing some studying, which was not out of the norm because we were friends throughout. Although after that its become a daily thing, this is the 3rd time we have gone out on these "study dates" in the past 2 weeks. I want to make moves but Im skeptical on how to proceed. Inviting her out to the bar is no big deal and shes down to drink with me anytime. Do i make the move while we are at the bar, on one of these study dates, or take her out to someplace then go in?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Old Fling is back?
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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I'd be careful, she already cheated on her ex with you in the past. Now that their broken up.. she could just use you for sex, help get over her ex or make him jealous. If you only want to be fvck buddies let her know right up front. I dont think this chick is "girlfriend" material..
Appreciate the concern, I was thinking **** buddies and see where it goes. So I guess if i went that route the bar would be the scene of choice for that. I just got out of a relationship that was 2 years a few months back as well so its basically the same for each of us. My concern is that if I go for it to early, since their breakup was recent, that she might pull the " idk its just to early for me to be hooking up with other people" or some line that girls usually use after a night out with a guy to not hookup.
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Well, she did reach out to you, showing some interests, but be warned who knows why she is running to you first. Will you be her next victim???
I'd play it cool and dont come off too strong and seem desperate..Think about if she is someone even worth investing your time with.. But, this is completely up to you.
I'd play it cool and dont come off too strong and seem desperate..Think about if she is someone even worth investing your time with.. But, this is completely up to you.
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Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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You sound to me like you're trying to deny that you've got some feelings for this woman, judging by how you're secretly hoping for something more. But that's just a gut feeling for me, nothing more.Swerve90 said:
That's what you think right now. But things like this could take a complete 360 turn, you know. Tread lightly.Swerve90 said: