"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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OLD - Dates - and Challenge

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Here's the thing, when i set up my dates, i usually disappear till the day of the date, but OLD is different since they've never seen you face to face i don't think challenge would work.
Should i keep texting them till the first meet up? Or is the procedure the same (disappear) ?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Low contact till the date , in my experience vanishing till the date just ends up in her vanishing forever ...

Only when they've seen you in face and then you start withdrawing will she wonder about the cool guy she met
 

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Here's the thing, when i set up my dates, i usually disappear till the day of the date, but OLD is different since they've never seen you face to face i don't think challenge would work.
Should i keep texting them till the first meet up? Or is the procedure the same (disappear) ?
I found maintaining contact with a text or two a day gets you many more dates than disappearing.
 

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I found maintaining contact with a text or two a day gets you many more dates than disappearing.
Yeah, that's what i thought. Doesn't make much sense to disappear from someone you've never even met.
 

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There's multiple ways to play it, the girl I met OLD that I banged 2 Wednesday's ago, I had escalated through text and phone calls/voicenotes so much that sex was a certainty. We had even planned whose house we would go back to after the date. This made the date easy, kissing was easy, she was already turned on, going back and banging was effortless.

On the other hand, a less forward (maybe see higher quality) girl you will be better off with a couple texts and a 5 minute call day before the date.

It all depends on the girl and what you want out of it, I am not seeking an LTR from OLD so I escalate heavily pre date (I want an easy life and guaranteed bang for my efforts).
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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There's multiple ways to play it, the girl I met OLD that I banged 2 Wednesday's ago, I had escalated through text and phone calls/voicenotes so much that sex was a certainty. We had even planned whose house we would go back to after the date. This made the date easy, kissing was easy, she was already turned on, going back and banging was effortless.

On the other hand, a less forward (maybe see higher quality) girl you will be better off with a couple texts and a 5 minute call day before the date.

It all depends on the girl and what you want out of it, I am not seeking an LTR from OLD so I escalate heavily pre date (I want an easy life and guaranteed bang for my efforts).
I am, so i try to play it more cool to avoid scaring away the more conservative girls.
 

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I am, so i try to play it more cool to avoid scaring away the more conservative girls.
becareful man .....OLD women, have serious issues imho, theyll come across as great company on the first 3 dates youll think youve struck gold, She will be all over you like "YOU ARE THE ONE"...they are neurotic messes hiding behind a false face

treat every date as fun and that your never going to see them again and youll be good to go
 

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becareful man .....OLD women, have serious issues imho, theyll come across as great company on the first 3 dates youll think youve struck gold, She will be all over you like "YOU ARE THE ONE"...they are neurotic messes hiding behind a false face

treat every date as fun and that your never going to see them again and youll be good to go
I'm good, i do the majority of the dumping.
 

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Maintaining communication through text is probably the best option when dealing with most new potential plates. As long as you maintain a fun/laid back/upbeat demeanor and dont act clingy or insecure, all should be fine.

I have had much worse results when I set the date and then ignore them. They arent stupid and in the day and age that everyone looks at their phone every 10 minutes, it can give a lot of chicks a bad taste if you ghost until the date.

A couple texts here and there to build a little rapport and momentum each day is ideal. I like to drop a sketchy message or two that can easily be turned into something sexual just to see if they bite. If they do great, if not, I keep it just light and fun.
 
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