"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

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OLD - Dates - and Challenge

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Here's the thing, when i set up my dates, i usually disappear till the day of the date, but OLD is different since they've never seen you face to face i don't think challenge would work.
Should i keep texting them till the first meet up? Or is the procedure the same (disappear) ?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Low contact till the date , in my experience vanishing till the date just ends up in her vanishing forever ...

Only when they've seen you in face and then you start withdrawing will she wonder about the cool guy she met
 

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Here's the thing, when i set up my dates, i usually disappear till the day of the date, but OLD is different since they've never seen you face to face i don't think challenge would work.
Should i keep texting them till the first meet up? Or is the procedure the same (disappear) ?
I found maintaining contact with a text or two a day gets you many more dates than disappearing.
 

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I found maintaining contact with a text or two a day gets you many more dates than disappearing.
Yeah, that's what i thought. Doesn't make much sense to disappear from someone you've never even met.
 

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There's multiple ways to play it, the girl I met OLD that I banged 2 Wednesday's ago, I had escalated through text and phone calls/voicenotes so much that sex was a certainty. We had even planned whose house we would go back to after the date. This made the date easy, kissing was easy, she was already turned on, going back and banging was effortless.

On the other hand, a less forward (maybe see higher quality) girl you will be better off with a couple texts and a 5 minute call day before the date.

It all depends on the girl and what you want out of it, I am not seeking an LTR from OLD so I escalate heavily pre date (I want an easy life and guaranteed bang for my efforts).
 

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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

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There's multiple ways to play it, the girl I met OLD that I banged 2 Wednesday's ago, I had escalated through text and phone calls/voicenotes so much that sex was a certainty. We had even planned whose house we would go back to after the date. This made the date easy, kissing was easy, she was already turned on, going back and banging was effortless.

On the other hand, a less forward (maybe see higher quality) girl you will be better off with a couple texts and a 5 minute call day before the date.

It all depends on the girl and what you want out of it, I am not seeking an LTR from OLD so I escalate heavily pre date (I want an easy life and guaranteed bang for my efforts).
I am, so i try to play it more cool to avoid scaring away the more conservative girls.
 

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I am, so i try to play it more cool to avoid scaring away the more conservative girls.
becareful man .....OLD women, have serious issues imho, theyll come across as great company on the first 3 dates youll think youve struck gold, She will be all over you like "YOU ARE THE ONE"...they are neurotic messes hiding behind a false face

treat every date as fun and that your never going to see them again and youll be good to go
 

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becareful man .....OLD women, have serious issues imho, theyll come across as great company on the first 3 dates youll think youve struck gold, She will be all over you like "YOU ARE THE ONE"...they are neurotic messes hiding behind a false face

treat every date as fun and that your never going to see them again and youll be good to go
I'm good, i do the majority of the dumping.
 

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Maintaining communication through text is probably the best option when dealing with most new potential plates. As long as you maintain a fun/laid back/upbeat demeanor and dont act clingy or insecure, all should be fine.

I have had much worse results when I set the date and then ignore them. They arent stupid and in the day and age that everyone looks at their phone every 10 minutes, it can give a lot of chicks a bad taste if you ghost until the date.

A couple texts here and there to build a little rapport and momentum each day is ideal. I like to drop a sketchy message or two that can easily be turned into something sexual just to see if they bite. If they do great, if not, I keep it just light and fun.
 
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