I’ve been matching with tons of hot girls but hardly any of them are actually talking. Anyone else having same thing happen? I’ve done online dating for a while and usually have good success with getting girls talking and going on dates. Past few weeks or so though I’m getting matches but very little responses
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
OLD and this virus
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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There is no chance I would be meeting with any random chicks right now who I was not already banging and who I didn't know relatively well. You must be insane to even be thinking about this.
im not talking about meeting up. I’m saying I’m hardly even getting responses to any messages. I’m matched with like 15+ girls and only 2 are hardly replying. Never had much problem before getting girls to talk until recently
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Hmm...maybe they are taking a break? Or maybe they have a backlog of guys they are already talking to? If they aren't meeting in person they probably haven't dismissed a lot of them outright...
why are you texting women during this crisis, work on self preservation, lift weights
they will rinse you of non sexual attention
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Pretty sure this is the answer.
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The majority (> 50% based on surveys) of women who use dating apps have never gone out on a date with someone they met on the app. Most use the apps for validation and/or entertainment. Stuck indoors due to the virus and potentially unemployed, my guess would be that many more women are on the apps and swiping out of boredom for something to do, but they have no interest in chatting or dating. Now is a great time to put dating apps aside and do some self-development or get some things accomplished. Online dating right now is like trying to get a tan by laying on the beach in the middle of the night.