I’ve been matching with tons of hot girls but hardly any of them are actually talking. Anyone else having same thing happen? I’ve done online dating for a while and usually have good success with getting girls talking and going on dates. Past few weeks or so though I’m getting matches but very little responses
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
OLD and this virus
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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There is no chance I would be meeting with any random chicks right now who I was not already banging and who I didn't know relatively well. You must be insane to even be thinking about this.
im not talking about meeting up. I’m saying I’m hardly even getting responses to any messages. I’m matched with like 15+ girls and only 2 are hardly replying. Never had much problem before getting girls to talk until recently
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Hmm...maybe they are taking a break? Or maybe they have a backlog of guys they are already talking to? If they aren't meeting in person they probably haven't dismissed a lot of them outright...
why are you texting women during this crisis, work on self preservation, lift weights
they will rinse you of non sexual attention
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Pretty sure this is the answer.
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The majority (> 50% based on surveys) of women who use dating apps have never gone out on a date with someone they met on the app. Most use the apps for validation and/or entertainment. Stuck indoors due to the virus and potentially unemployed, my guess would be that many more women are on the apps and swiping out of boredom for something to do, but they have no interest in chatting or dating. Now is a great time to put dating apps aside and do some self-development or get some things accomplished. Online dating right now is like trying to get a tan by laying on the beach in the middle of the night.