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Old Age advice vs New Age advice

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(the 75 year old going after the 19 year old example would have never been realistically pitched here or elsewhere except by very delusional people, etc.).
Amazingly, I could link you to probably hundreds of screen names from places like seddit and skilledseducer who will tell you exactly that, tbh lol.
And it would have probably been even more common in the olden days.
Obviously the people selling this idea are mostly coaches.
The other people spouting it are typically people who are just gullible guys, desperate to believe that it's all in your control (even if they have had like zero success with women at all) and will be quite vocal about how every excuse for rejection is simply a limiting belief (looks, age wahtever) and that it's always a game issue
 

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We forget that there are a lot of women walking on this planet, but we let a handful of women shape our perspectives.
i feel that people whom do not spend a good proportion of their time in the field, are just battling a competition that does not really exists at the level they believe

sounds to me more like Don Quixote battling the wind mills thinking they are monsters
 

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I used to talk about game to women friends back in the day. While they enjoyed the “field reports” because they were funny/juicy/sexy stories, they were always subtly or not so subtly dismissive of game and its tactics. They would often shift the conversation back to looks.

But I was brainwashed by gurus back then to “not take advice from a fish” so I didn’t think anything of it at the time.

TLDR: The fish knew the truth.
 
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I used to talk about game to women friends back in the day. While they enjoyed the “field reports” because they were funny/juicy/sexy stories, they were always subtly or not so subtly dismissive of game and its tactics. They would often shift the conversation back to looks.

But I was brainwashed by gurus back then to “not take advice from a fish” so I didn’t think anything of it at the time.

TLDR: The fish knew the truth.
I would say that part is 100% true. I've never heard a woman give good dating advice to a man. And it's not necessarily because they want to deliberately sabotage you by giving you bad advice. It's because they are psychologically incapable of admitting certain things. Just like a stupid person will never admit to being stupid.
 
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I used to talk about game to women friends back in the day. While they enjoyed the “field reports” because they were funny/juicy/sexy stories, they were always subtly or not so subtly dismissive of game and its tactics. They would often shift the conversation back to looks.

But I was brainwashed by gurus back then to “not take advice from a fish” so I didn’t think anything of it at the time.

TLDR: The fish knew the truth.
The only thing the fish knows is that it doesn't want to be perceived as an easy catch (even if she is). Hence these women telling you how game doesn't work, how men who try are "predators", some other nonsense, etc. Good looking people get away with more; but a person's action, confidence, and charisma is ultimately just as important if you're pulling women.
 

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I used to talk about game to women friends back in the day. While they enjoyed the “field reports” because they were funny/juicy/sexy stories, they were always subtly or not so subtly dismissive of game and its tactics. They would often shift the conversation back to looks.

But I was brainwashed by gurus back then to “not take advice from a fish” so I didn’t think anything of it at the time.

TLDR: The fish knew the truth.
But when I pressed a few of them and called them out using their own situations, they admitted some of it worked.
 

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Like Clockwerk50 said... old age advice is all about negotiating desire and talking women into sleeping with you.

New age advice is to become the better man and become desirable instead of having to convince someone to fvck you.
In theory agree, but the issue with new age advice is, by the time the man becomes desirable, the woman has already slept with 10 guys.

There are 2 different wavelengths here:

Old age advice: Negotiate desire and convince her to sleep with you. The woman is a virgin
New age advice. Become more desirable and increase SMV (saving height and hair). The woman is not a virgin 10x over.

I would say if the man wants baby and family, old age advice better. If the man wants to sleep around with hot girls, new age advice is better.
 

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@BadBoy89 "The woman is a virgin"

For the most part, those occur in two scenarios, hoss:

-Paperback Harlequin novels, written by bored, undersexed housewives, and read by the sort of airheads who compromise Delilah's
fanbase The untouched heroine is generally an au pair in some fictional Near Eastern nation, and the hero a sheikh who's tired of boning supermodels

-Towns with populations of 200 and dwindling, filled with yokels who mistake re-runs of Blue Bloods and Chicago Fire/it's millions of spin-offs for high culture

Goes without saying, the former is even more fictious than a White House that takes The Constitution seriously, and the cost of leaving metropolitan life for the latter is exceptionally steep

-
 

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In theory agree, but the issue with new age advice is, by the time the man becomes desirable, the woman has already slept with 10 guys.

There are 2 different wavelengths here:

Old age advice: Negotiate desire and convince her to sleep with you. The woman is a virgin
New age advice. Become more desirable and increase SMV (saving height and hair). The woman is not a virgin 10x over.

I would say if the man wants baby and family, old age advice better. If the man wants to sleep around with hot girls, new age advice is better.
Come on man...... unless you are in an archaic culture like in the middle east or a high school kid, you are not going to sleep with a virgin, unless she is the literally below the bottom of the barrel. And IF you actually find a virgin above 20, there will be no fvcking before marriage.
 

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Come on man...... unless you are in an archaic culture like in the middle east or a high school kid, you are not going to sleep with a virgin, unless she is the literally below the bottom of the barrel. And IF you actually find a virgin above 20, there will be no fvcking before marriage.
The point wasn't to find a virgin.

The point was new age advice for men to be more desirable and increase SMV is sometimes hard for men to digest, because they are doing all of it for a woman who has slept with the football team before meeting them.

Not that they shouldn't do it, but sometimes alot of men say the trade off is not worth it.
 

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2. Sneaky Link for Chads- you've got women now who have access to attractive men far more than ever before, largely due to dating apps. Sure, it may be short-term or ONS but it's a real thing. I remember years ago an ugly Latina or asian girl's picture was going viral on Reddit that showed her with 20 (decent to highly attractive)men banged in a month, in a month!!! We all know how OLD is tough for average men but even the ugliest woman can bang a hot guy whenever she chooses to, which does confirm your SMV point.
Don’t fully agree with this one.
Ugly easy chicks have always had access to various levels of attractive men. Because they are easy and slutty. And men get drunk and horny.
Or just horny, and no one’s watching.

I don’t see why a Chad would bother with an ugly chick just since Online dating/socials . They have plenty of interest from decent looking chicks IRL on the same platforms. why would they drop standards..?
That doesn’t add up.
 
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Come on man...... unless you are in an archaic culture like in the middle east or a high school kid, you are not going to sleep with a virgin, unless she is the literally below the bottom of the barrel. And IF you actually find a virgin above 20, there will be no fvcking before marriage.
even in the Middle East plenty of bjs and anal sex happens

so technically they have plenty of sexual experience with different men

Just that a woman did not had normal sex, does not necessarily makes her purer or inexperienced

this virginity obsession , especially in this global culture, is a cope to blame the exterior rather than for guys to look within and be accountable that whatever their circumstances is mainly about them and not the world

this is what women do through feminism, blame men for whatever circumstances they are instead of looking within and see that most of the problems are because of them not because of someone else
 

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Old age advice was essentially selling the idea that her attraction is entirely in your control. If one is ever rejected by a girl it just means (and only means) your 'game' wasn't good enough. If you are 75 and obese and the stunning little 19 year old girl rejects you, it's a 'game' issue. Not a looks or age issue or whatever. That would be called a 'limiting belief'. You simply need to 'create attraction' (buy my course on how to do this). Depending on whose old school model you used, that could mean negging her. Or telling DHV stories. Or using canned NLP seduction patterns. For Slightly more modern PUA's it would be 'teasing' her, maybe cold reads and just being 'free from outcome' in general etc

It was always a load of nonsense tbh, but it wasn't until youtube came along, amongst other things, where sharp eyes were slowly able to see that the coaches themselves couldn't achieve this miracle. And people were slowly able to spot patterns over thousands of infields. Namely that pulls were always on the 'yes girls'. Girls who were basically into it at 'hi', and the success was in spite of their routines of whatever. Not because of it. Out of maybe 10,000 infields that have been released, we've basically never seen a pull on a hard 'no girl', despite the fact that for the original PUA model to be true, we should have thousands of them! We should have endless infields...thousands(!) where some very ugly, old guy approaches a 10/10 stunner who ignores him and tells her she has a BF. He says 'how long have you had that problem?!' or 'I've got a gold fish....sorry, I thought we were talking about things that didn't matter' or one of many cheesy PUA lines, then negged her etc etc, and then she starts trying to seduce HIM due to her insane attraction levels lol.

I remember Julien joyfully sharing an infield where he was able to make a clear 'no girl' who was basically ignoring him, say a few words back too him. That was all he got out of her. No lay. No kiss. Nothing. And he clearly thought that was a big acchievment which kind of underline how likely it is that one is actually going to BANG a 'no girl' lol. If we are celebrating getting her to say a few polite words!

Luckily the community has MOSTLY gotten away from that disney thinking, although there are actually still some forums and sub reddits where some unfortunate saps are still hanging onto that idea (Mostly people who are selling coaching of course. So they don't actually believe what they are even saying! There's no integrity when it comes to making lots of money lol)

Nowadays though, most people know that her telling you she has a BF means either 1/ she does have a boyfriend, or 2/She is lying about having one so that you go away since she's not attracted to you, and nothing you can say will change that lol

The general 'model' of PUA nowadays is much more concentrated on being your best self (getting lean is the most popular one. Also dressing better, getting your money up etc) and then essentially playing the numbers game. No real 'rules' as such in terms of what to say etc.
don’t agree w this.
What you said in your first sentence is true. But only from a certain point on , post The Game in 2005.. probably 2009 onward with the big nPUA business explosion.
And re RSD - Strauss already mentioned Tyler was a snake in his book. They became the biggest player in that market.

to me. reading The Game and Mystery Method originally, and some other stuff of that time, it was all tactics and techniques that bolted together to convey a certain personality, and importantly in that. some kind of *Status* , and high confidence.
Status being conveyed through attitudes, verbal stuff, body language and some psychological head games.

this was key stuff to me back then that I hadn’t figured out.
Chicks do read /feel out for status, especially in busy nightlife.

Chicks in bars and clubs can be b1tches and full of attitude , it was learning how to handle that and try turn it around basically to me.

sometimes getting ONS in bars and clubs is just hanging in there and maintaining that persona until the end of the night.

and for me , I definitely pulled chicks of a type I would not have, after absorbing those ideas and practicing them.
 
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Virgins and feminine certainly women exist in the USA, but most single frustrated men won’t have a chance at going near them because those women never leave their religious social circles. Furthermore, frustrated men tend to only prospect women in places religious virgins won’t ever venture out to. Sorry, but your Christian or Muslim young woman ain’t going out to a fvcking club or trolling on hinge. I know you have your exceptional fake girl but she is an exception to the rule.
 

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Still talkin bout money, huh?

:rofl::rofl:
You didn't responded previously, and that was a wise decision. And now you cowardly qoute a small part of my post ,taking the message out of context.

I understand that when you go through life like a low value boy/ man-child that you get triggered when real men thalk about grown man shyte.

I know, you rather have men roaming the streets like a jester, begging women for p00sy. Because thats literally your life and all you know!

Party like its 1999!!!

And on top of that also overweight women who are older than 50 sometimes 60 ( facts!!!!!).

Im trying to teach men that they only have 24 hours per day and that every hour needs to be spent wisely.

The more I understand women, life and money the more I'll advocate for money over p00sy. Even Biggi told you so back in 1995( feck b1tches ,get money).

Let me repeat what I responded to because you're a slow learner: ( orginal qoute)The big difference is the time required. You can learn “game” in a few months. Improving money/status can take years. The modern gurus need to be honest about how long it actually takes

So let's both stay in our lane; you stay in your lane where you spam approach (old) women all day every day, I stay in my lane where I grind 14 hours per day while building a solid bizz while sleeping with women whenever I feel like its convenient.

Sayonara
 

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The old advice talks a lot about inner game and outer game.

The new advice is pretty much 100% inner game.

It's true: once you've mastered inner game, it's just about small tweeks in technique. This is bad for dating and PUA coaches and explains why the PUA industry is dead (as it should be).
 

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It's true: once you've mastered inner game, it's just about small tweeks in technique. This is bad for dating and PUA coaches and explains why the PUA industry is dead (as it should be).
Hence why it pivoted to the red & black pill lol because doom and gloom sells and it's easy to tell a guy to lookmax vs get game.
 
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