At first I thought this chick had high interest because she came up to me, she's going with me to a prom thing which will be at a beach and we stay in a cabin thing, and we've had lunch together and she wasn't even hungry but still came, plus she knows a lot about me already which is creepy, and she talks a lot. Also, she initiates a lot of kino. Turns out she's really friendly and she'll reply to my text within seconds or it will take up to hours for her to respond, but her responses are usually good.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Okay I'm seriously confused about this one chick
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Rubato
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I don't see a problem?
R
Rubato
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Dude, you need to relax. I realize you're prolly in high school since you're going to prom with her, but not hearing from her, or not hearing back from her in one day is not a big deal. That is not a sign of interest or disinterest dude.
All of the things you mentioned, besides her texting pattern, are real life actions, substantive examples of her interest. Dude, sometimes I don't text people back, my girlfriends back, or anyone back for any number of reasons that does NOT include me not liking them.
How sexual have you been with the girl? If you want a reliable indicator of interest, that's it.
Girls have boyfriends and girlfriends. If you are not f*cking her, you are her girlfriend.
All of the things you mentioned, besides her texting pattern, are real life actions, substantive examples of her interest. Dude, sometimes I don't text people back, my girlfriends back, or anyone back for any number of reasons that does NOT include me not liking them.
How sexual have you been with the girl? If you want a reliable indicator of interest, that's it.
Girls have boyfriends and girlfriends. If you are not f*cking her, you are her girlfriend.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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You can't go around worrying about how long its been since the last time she txt you. It sounds AFC and we're tring to be Don Juans. DJ's only talk on the phone to set up dates. Nothing more, nothing less. If she doesnt accept your date, she is not interested.
cablecow15
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not surprised to see u write threads like this