At first I thought this chick had high interest because she came up to me, she's going with me to a prom thing which will be at a beach and we stay in a cabin thing, and we've had lunch together and she wasn't even hungry but still came, plus she knows a lot about me already which is creepy, and she talks a lot. Also, she initiates a lot of kino. Turns out she's really friendly and she'll reply to my text within seconds or it will take up to hours for her to respond, but her responses are usually good.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Okay I'm seriously confused about this one chick
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
R
Rubato
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I don't see a problem?
R
Rubato
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Dude, you need to relax. I realize you're prolly in high school since you're going to prom with her, but not hearing from her, or not hearing back from her in one day is not a big deal. That is not a sign of interest or disinterest dude.
All of the things you mentioned, besides her texting pattern, are real life actions, substantive examples of her interest. Dude, sometimes I don't text people back, my girlfriends back, or anyone back for any number of reasons that does NOT include me not liking them.
How sexual have you been with the girl? If you want a reliable indicator of interest, that's it.
Girls have boyfriends and girlfriends. If you are not f*cking her, you are her girlfriend.
All of the things you mentioned, besides her texting pattern, are real life actions, substantive examples of her interest. Dude, sometimes I don't text people back, my girlfriends back, or anyone back for any number of reasons that does NOT include me not liking them.
How sexual have you been with the girl? If you want a reliable indicator of interest, that's it.
Girls have boyfriends and girlfriends. If you are not f*cking her, you are her girlfriend.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Krueg
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You can't go around worrying about how long its been since the last time she txt you. It sounds AFC and we're tring to be Don Juans. DJ's only talk on the phone to set up dates. Nothing more, nothing less. If she doesnt accept your date, she is not interested.
cablecow15
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not surprised to see u write threads like this