You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You were there? I was there from 8 am until 6 that night lol. Never saw a crowd take to a horse like they have in the past and they did that day with Zenyatta. Saw grown man crying when she won lol. Have all kinds of pics of her. Helluva race horse.backbreaker said:I lift 6 days a week but i have a very nice setup at home so I dont go to the gym
I go the track 4-5 days a week, on my way there now actually (Breeders cup)
backbreaker said:I lift 6 days a week but i have a very nice setup at home so I dont go to the gym
I go the track 4-5 days a week, on my way there now actually (Breeders cup)
hell I cried like a little b!tch. very emotional scene.cordoncordon said:You were there? I was there from 8 am until 6 that night lol. Never saw a crowd take to a horse like they have in the past and they did that day with Zenyatta. Saw grown man crying when she won lol. Have all kinds of pics of her. Helluva race horse.
BTW I live about 7 minutes away from there.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
hell the good friends I do have I meet at the track. not the sterotypes you would think (73 year old people with pacemakers walking around)st_99 said:I'm thinking the track is not a very good place to meet friends, unless you're into hanging out with 73 yo men who sh*t themselves.
But seriously, my social life blows also. It didn't always, it just seems like a series of bad luck and bad decisions over the years led me down the path of lame social life. sux.
and thats amazing to me, thats incredible. Its like me meeting my future wife at the poker tables. I would put the odds a 1000:1.backbreaker said:my soon to be fiancee (i'm proposing next week, it's a suprise) I met at the track.
explain to me how meeting a woman at the horse track is different from meeting a woman at starbucks, a night club, a sports bar or at a grocery store?st_99 said:and thats amazing to me, thats incredible. Its like me meeting my future wife at the poker tables. I would put the odds a 1000:1.
I think for you its definitely meant to be then. Lets face it, the track is NOT the place to meet chics so if you do it must be THE ONE.
horse lover and riding enthusiast since childhood, she is the owner of Iberian horses and is a spokesperson for the Animal Welfare Institute's national campaign to end horse slaughter through passage of federal and state legislation. On February 5, 2002, she published her autobiography entitled Riding Lessons: Everything That Matters in Life I Learned from Horses (ISBN 0-060-39437-4).
Derek currently serves on the California Horse Racing Board of Directors.[
quoted for truthUnbridled_Phoenix said:st99 is way off.
"Good" girls love horses. Not all good girls love horses, but you don't see gutter skanks at the horsetrack, especially up in the boxes![]()
I go to Keeneland a couple times a year, and it is a$$ city down there. UK college girls down on the ground, and hot young things in fancy dresses up in the stands. Kentucky is a sleeper state, you wouldn't think so, but anytime I'm in Lexington or Louisville I see HBs like crazy.
One of my goals of the next 5 years is to buy a couple good horses and ride them all over the place, I'm bringing back the horse y'all
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
wrong against_99 said:Nah, u got me all wrong. Its not about the gambling. I'm just saying the ratio of men to women at the track has to be like 40 to 1 or something like that.
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