"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Bigtrucker2008

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There is a particular girl who I'm currently talking to, but we aren't boyfriend and girlfriend right now. Ok, so earlier I was talking to her about when are we gonna go to the next level, speaking of sex. Her response was "What? SEX?". I never had that happened and I didnt know what to do, so I acted like I was joking. I'm not sure if she believed me though.

Now, I think there may or may not be an awkwardness there. Because, we've talked about sex before plenty of times, but not me actually meeting to have sex with her or anything like that.

My question is What can I do to make sure we are still cool and things aren't awkward???
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Bigtrucker2008 said:
My question is What can I do to make sure we are still cool and things aren't awkward???
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Talk to her about her problems, about her life, let her spill herself onto you about her bad boyfriends. Absorb that stuff, and sponge it out of her.



On a serious note, it appears that you are crawling and she is making fun of you. Get it over with. Kino, kiss, fvck. Try to fit it into your next meet. She is practically begging you to fvck her.
 
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"Taking it to the next level"

Get that traditional dating BS out of here. Why do you even have to ask about being bf/gf or even "taking it to the next level" thats pure AFC and will automatically throw sex out of the window.

If you want to have sex ESCALATE stop asking lead, lead, lead...and when in doubt LEAD. You can't asking for sex that triggers her auto pilot response. NEVER ask for sex.

Well since you already did what you did your best bet is to just act like it never happened.
 
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Snow Plowman said:
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"Taking it to the next level"

Get that traditional dating BS out of here. Why do you even have to ask about being bf/gf or even "taking it to the next level" thats pure AFC and will automatically throw sex out of the window.[/B]
If you want to have sex ESCALATE stop asking lead, lead, lead...and when in doubt LEAD. You can't asking for sex that triggers her auto pilot response. NEVER ask for sex.
Well since you already did what you did your best bet is to just act like it never happened.
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Well, actually, something happened. I smashed. I mean, not that I didnt think it would happen, but I thought I may have completely ruined my chances when she did that "SEX?? WHAT?!?!" thing. But naw, she actually wanted it even more after I mentioned us having sex. So yeah.....

Mr. Wolf was more right than anyone, but Snow Plowman could be right too. The only thing is: I didnt ask her for sex.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Bigtrucker2008 said:
There is a particular girl who I'm currently talking to, but we aren't boyfriend and girlfriend right now. Ok, so earlier I was talking to her about when are we gonna go to the next level, speaking of sex. Her response was "What? SEX?". I never had that happened and I didnt know what to do, so I acted like I was joking. I'm not sure if she believed me though.

Now, I think there may or may not be an awkwardness there. Because, we've talked about sex before plenty of times, but not me actually meeting to have sex with her or anything like that.

My question is What can I do to make sure we are still cool and things aren't awkward???
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I missed the interesting part...
 
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