"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Oh great, now the femynists want sexual crimes ... in the metaverse ... prosecuted
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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I don't think he cares. He is likely an MGTOW type of guy who enjoys the convenience and ease of just seeing escorts and couldn't be bothered with some sub-par looking chick who might want him. With him, it's 'might' be nice if he could get one like that, but it's not necessary. These days those things can be overrated because of hoeinflation.
Fortune_favors_the_bold
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For what I recall he (no offence to op) is old and short which means that nowadays jacking off is a much better option than getting naked any woman from the group available to him.
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He's visiting escorts though, at least based on his posts. He's not just fapping (ie assuming that he is, but for the record, he has never posted anywhere that he faps from my recollection).
CornbreadFed
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It is just easier to doom post than put in the necessary work
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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It has always been difficult to anything decent in "any woman from the group available to him".
OK, I could go after single mommies.
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So the 30 seconds it takes to post really takes away from "putting in the necessary work"?
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Yes, I don't want a fat chick - is that so much to ask?
Fortune_favors_the_bold
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If the options available to you generally suck or sucks compared to the work and stress you need to endure to get them, I totally agree with you not to close the transaction.It has always been difficult to anything decent in "any woman from the group available to him".
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
