Immaculate
Master Don Juan
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I could have played it better and had a f@ck buddy, but I really liked her personality and I didn't want to risk catching feelings for this girl.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Ah ha! Yes I went back , but I did NOT put out for her. And I did NOT stay the night. She wanted it but I refused. I gave HER the let's just be friends line...hahahaha... freakin nympho's....Originally posted by Wyldfire
Told you that you would go right back...
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I cut her off because she emailed me and said "I never want to see you again"Originally posted by ketostix
You leave out a lot of details. You went from banging her to her cutting you off (how, why?), to her asking you over again, all withing a day or two..I guess she's just nuts.
sigh , you belong there.Originally posted by Immaculate
LOL
I'm bored so I just sent this W HORE a message
"I wonder Why I could never get off with you... I never had this problem with any other girls...especially last night.
Things that make you go hmmmmmm..."
LOL
B1tch... put her in her place. She already was like "is there simething wrong with me" LOL
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
LOL...that`s the last twist needed in this sordid tale.Originally posted by swampwiz
I took a look at her pics. She seems to have a bit of a masculine frame - like a man who would purposely let his muscles waste away a bit. And her facial structure seems to be a little on the strong side.
She made a reference to something in Bangkok. In case you didn't know, that's the leading place for transgendering operations.
Something to think about.