The Comeback Kid
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forget this post - I didn't realize Bluelemond replied.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Odd situation (seems long but is just spread out)
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
The Comeback Kid
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I appreciate what you say - in fact, you may be right.Originally posted by bluelemond
Yeah, heres a suggestion...NEXT!
I think you have one-itis. DO a search on it to see if you do. It's over with this girl. Just get over it. I didn't even read the whole thing but I can tell you have one-itis because:
1) She's from sophmore year.
2) You talk about her too much.
Just move on. There are plenty of girls just go get them. Stop playing these games, it's not worth it!
Good luck and keep up the good work!
There are mainly just a couple small reasons why I have "one-itis" with this girl:
1.) I don't really know too many girls. I'm improving my game, but I still don't have much to work with regarding girls at my school. A lot are definately attractive, but a lot are also airheaded sl*ts - our school kinda has a rep for it.
2.) I know I can hold a conversation with this girl - again, unlike the airheads. Our school has a lot of girls that party and have s*x all the time and don't really have relationships. I still want to stick to my morals and keep combining my DJing with what I believe in.
3.) The girl still talks to me a lot. I try to keep her out of my mind, but she's "there" and hte whole cycles replays itself.
But again, I agree with you. If Homecoming wasn't a little over a moth away, NEXTing would definately be a lot easier. Also, at the point where it's going down (as in bad), it's NEXT time!
I'll see how this plays out. Thanks.
B-Lemond
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Originally posted by The Comeback Kid
I appreciate what you say - in fact, you may be right.
There are mainly just a couple small reasons why I have "one-itis" with this girl:
1.) I don't really know too many girls. I'm improving my game, but I still don't have much to work with regarding girls at my school. A lot are definately attractive, but a lot are also airheaded sl*ts - our school kinda has a rep for it.
2.) I know I can hold a conversation with this girl - again, unlike the airheads. Our school has a lot of girls that party and have s*x all the time and don't really have relationships. I still want to stick to my morals and keep combining my DJing with what I believe in.
3.) The girl still talks to me a lot. I try to keep her out of my mind, but she's "there" and hte whole cycles replays itself.
But again, I agree with you. If Homecoming wasn't a little over a moth away, NEXTing would definately be a lot easier. Also, at the point where it's going down (as in bad), it's NEXT time!
I'll see how this plays out. Thanks.
If you really want her then DON'T see her. I know it sounds weird but that's the best thing for you to do. Search "the silent treatment". It's probably the ONLY thing that MIGHT actually get you this girl if your really want to.
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It's funny you say that...I didn't even see her today lol. My school has a rotating schedule (classes roate in order) and likely due to this, I didn't even see her today. So I guess that's a good thing.Originally posted by bluelemond
If you really want her then DON'T see her. I know it sounds weird but that's the best thing for you to do. Search "the silent treatment". It's probably the ONLY thing that MIGHT actually get you this girl if your really want to.
As RawBlood's suggestion says, I'll try to keep my posts shorter. I'll still go to her V-Ball game tomorrow (I got a friend to go with me), but unless she contacts me, I won't talk to her as much, at least leading up to the event.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
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Is the silent treatment working? How is it going? Keep us updated.
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I actually used it today, and I get at least another "silent" day due to the weekend. I think the one thing I did today was give a quick hey, after I saw her waving to me (she was stright ahead as I turned a corner).Originally posted by bluelemond
Is the silent treatment working? How is it going? Keep us updated.
I also went to one of her games and only said one or two little things to her, just to keep it flowing a tiny bit (so it doesn't seem very, very odd if I'm quiet).
But, I don't think it's that bad. Next week, I may ask her out (too much time can be a bad thing) and see what happens.