"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Odd situation (seems long but is just spread out)

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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The Comeback Kid

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Originally posted by bluelemond
Yeah, heres a suggestion...NEXT!

I think you have one-itis. DO a search on it to see if you do. It's over with this girl. Just get over it. I didn't even read the whole thing but I can tell you have one-itis because:
1) She's from sophmore year.
2) You talk about her too much.

Just move on. There are plenty of girls just go get them. Stop playing these games, it's not worth it!

Good luck and keep up the good work!
I appreciate what you say - in fact, you may be right.

There are mainly just a couple small reasons why I have "one-itis" with this girl:

1.) I don't really know too many girls. I'm improving my game, but I still don't have much to work with regarding girls at my school. A lot are definately attractive, but a lot are also airheaded sl*ts - our school kinda has a rep for it.

2.) I know I can hold a conversation with this girl - again, unlike the airheads. Our school has a lot of girls that party and have s*x all the time and don't really have relationships. I still want to stick to my morals and keep combining my DJing with what I believe in.

3.) The girl still talks to me a lot. I try to keep her out of my mind, but she's "there" and hte whole cycles replays itself.

But again, I agree with you. If Homecoming wasn't a little over a moth away, NEXTing would definately be a lot easier. Also, at the point where it's going down (as in bad), it's NEXT time!

I'll see how this plays out. Thanks.
 

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shorter posts will get you more answers.
 

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Originally posted by The Comeback Kid
I appreciate what you say - in fact, you may be right.

There are mainly just a couple small reasons why I have "one-itis" with this girl:

1.) I don't really know too many girls. I'm improving my game, but I still don't have much to work with regarding girls at my school. A lot are definately attractive, but a lot are also airheaded sl*ts - our school kinda has a rep for it.

2.) I know I can hold a conversation with this girl - again, unlike the airheads. Our school has a lot of girls that party and have s*x all the time and don't really have relationships. I still want to stick to my morals and keep combining my DJing with what I believe in.

3.) The girl still talks to me a lot. I try to keep her out of my mind, but she's "there" and hte whole cycles replays itself.

But again, I agree with you. If Homecoming wasn't a little over a moth away, NEXTing would definately be a lot easier. Also, at the point where it's going down (as in bad), it's NEXT time!

I'll see how this plays out. Thanks.

If you really want her then DON'T see her. I know it sounds weird but that's the best thing for you to do. Search "the silent treatment". It's probably the ONLY thing that MIGHT actually get you this girl if your really want to.
 

The Comeback Kid

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Originally posted by bluelemond
If you really want her then DON'T see her. I know it sounds weird but that's the best thing for you to do. Search "the silent treatment". It's probably the ONLY thing that MIGHT actually get you this girl if your really want to.
It's funny you say that...I didn't even see her today lol. My school has a rotating schedule (classes roate in order) and likely due to this, I didn't even see her today. So I guess that's a good thing.

As RawBlood's suggestion says, I'll try to keep my posts shorter. I'll still go to her V-Ball game tomorrow (I got a friend to go with me), but unless she contacts me, I won't talk to her as much, at least leading up to the event.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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wow bluelemond has been giving good advice lately... but watch out for those that give bad advice....ppl like whyshy?
 

The Comeback Kid

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Originally posted by bluelemond
Is the silent treatment working? How is it going? Keep us updated.
I actually used it today, and I get at least another "silent" day due to the weekend. I think the one thing I did today was give a quick hey, after I saw her waving to me (she was stright ahead as I turned a corner).

I also went to one of her games and only said one or two little things to her, just to keep it flowing a tiny bit (so it doesn't seem very, very odd if I'm quiet).

But, I don't think it's that bad. Next week, I may ask her out (too much time can be a bad thing) and see what happens.
 
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