The Comeback Kid
Master Don Juan
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forget this post - I didn't realize Bluelemond replied.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I appreciate what you say - in fact, you may be right.Originally posted by bluelemond
Yeah, heres a suggestion...NEXT!
I think you have one-itis. DO a search on it to see if you do. It's over with this girl. Just get over it. I didn't even read the whole thing but I can tell you have one-itis because:
1) She's from sophmore year.
2) You talk about her too much.
Just move on. There are plenty of girls just go get them. Stop playing these games, it's not worth it!
Good luck and keep up the good work!
Originally posted by The Comeback Kid
I appreciate what you say - in fact, you may be right.
There are mainly just a couple small reasons why I have "one-itis" with this girl:
1.) I don't really know too many girls. I'm improving my game, but I still don't have much to work with regarding girls at my school. A lot are definately attractive, but a lot are also airheaded sl*ts - our school kinda has a rep for it.
2.) I know I can hold a conversation with this girl - again, unlike the airheads. Our school has a lot of girls that party and have s*x all the time and don't really have relationships. I still want to stick to my morals and keep combining my DJing with what I believe in.
3.) The girl still talks to me a lot. I try to keep her out of my mind, but she's "there" and hte whole cycles replays itself.
But again, I agree with you. If Homecoming wasn't a little over a moth away, NEXTing would definately be a lot easier. Also, at the point where it's going down (as in bad), it's NEXT time!
I'll see how this plays out. Thanks.
It's funny you say that...I didn't even see her today lol. My school has a rotating schedule (classes roate in order) and likely due to this, I didn't even see her today. So I guess that's a good thing.Originally posted by bluelemond
If you really want her then DON'T see her. I know it sounds weird but that's the best thing for you to do. Search "the silent treatment". It's probably the ONLY thing that MIGHT actually get you this girl if your really want to.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I actually used it today, and I get at least another "silent" day due to the weekend. I think the one thing I did today was give a quick hey, after I saw her waving to me (she was stright ahead as I turned a corner).Originally posted by bluelemond
Is the silent treatment working? How is it going? Keep us updated.