"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Bossman90

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Has anyone noticed that the most undeveloped trait of PU is common sense?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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RedZone

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Most people lack common sense...not just people in the PUA community.
 

PapiChulo

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"common sense" doesn't really apply here at all. What do you mean in particular?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Murse

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Common sense in regards to woman is what the problem is, society has programmed most men to act like AFCs around girls and buy them flowers etc, this site is helping to reprogramme guys common and logic sense and ignore what we were hard wired to be like. Common sense was telling us we were doing something wrong with woman - somewhere along the line we were ****ing up... and so, one day we go on the internet and BOOM. DJ Bible, whats this??? GOLD!

LOL
 

Bossman90

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I was kind of referring to stuff like mysterys "kiss close" which negates common sense. When you realize that she likes you it's easier, to just ease into it. Also with numbers it's literally as easy as using either your environment or just talking about what your going to do that week and invite her out. Then there's getting sexaul with women and a lOt of those gurus get that wrong.
 

Bossman90

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Murse said:
Common sense in regards to woman is what the problem is, society has programmed most men to act like AFCs around girls and buy them flowers etc, this site is helping to reprogramme guys common and logic sense and ignore what we were hard wired to be like. Common sense was telling us we were doing something wrong with woman - somewhere along the line we were ****ing up... and so, one day we go on the internet and BOOM. DJ Bible, whats this??? GOLD!

LOL
I have never done that. Yet again, I did well with women before the community.
 

Bossman90

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RedZone said:
Most people lack common sense...not just people in the PUA community.
Agreed. I wasnt referring to the whole community, just a lot of the guys I've met up with. When I used to hang out with layer guys, they completed lacked it to the point that a lot of them I believe suffered from autism spectrum disorders. Even a lot of the coaches I've met, are the same way.
 

The Gambler

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I think many of us fall into the trap of giving "one size fits all" advice. Now, I will admit that many basics here are universal (i.e. don't smother her with communications, don't give her gifts too early, etc.), but many others are not. I see members here giving the same advice regarding an 18 year-old extroverted girl who likes to go clubbing, and a 38 year-old woman who is introverted and an experienced business professional. Sorry, but there is a huge (and obvious) difference between the two.

The Gambler
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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omega05

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common sense can't be applied to all situations. I mean we're dealing with women here
 

Bossman90

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PapiChulo said:
"common sense" doesn't really apply here at all. What do you mean in particular?
take for instance I say its common sense for you to understand that you probably shouldn't go for a make out with a girl who looks like she isn't interested. :nono: Ive seen guys I've met off forums in my area do this.
 

Fly By Night

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It's common sense to know that if a girl says she has a bf, she is sending you a hint that she is unavailable/uninterested. But pua knowledge says that you can use push/pull and C&F to bring out her inner slut or something along those lines.
 

The_411

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Bossman90 said:
Has anyone noticed that the most undeveloped trait of PU is common sense?
No, it's more that too many guys believe in NAWALT.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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TheMonkeyKing

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RedZone said:
Most people lack common sense...not just people in the PUA community.
+1.
 
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