She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I have never done that. Yet again, I did well with women before the community.Murse said:Common sense in regards to woman is what the problem is, society has programmed most men to act like AFCs around girls and buy them flowers etc, this site is helping to reprogramme guys common and logic sense and ignore what we were hard wired to be like. Common sense was telling us we were doing something wrong with woman - somewhere along the line we were ****ing up... and so, one day we go on the internet and BOOM. DJ Bible, whats this??? GOLD!
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Agreed. I wasnt referring to the whole community, just a lot of the guys I've met up with. When I used to hang out with layer guys, they completed lacked it to the point that a lot of them I believe suffered from autism spectrum disorders. Even a lot of the coaches I've met, are the same way.RedZone said:Most people lack common sense...not just people in the PUA community.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
take for instance I say its common sense for you to understand that you probably shouldn't go for a make out with a girl who looks like she isn't interested. :nono: Ive seen guys I've met off forums in my area do this.PapiChulo said:"common sense" doesn't really apply here at all. What do you mean in particular?
Word. Common sense only comes by making mistakes early and learning quickly.RedZone said:Most people lack common sense...not just people in the PUA community.
No, it's more that too many guys believe in NAWALT.Bossman90 said:Has anyone noticed that the most undeveloped trait of PU is common sense?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
+1.RedZone said:Most people lack common sense...not just people in the PUA community.