"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Has anyone noticed that the most undeveloped trait of PU is common sense?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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RedZone

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Most people lack common sense...not just people in the PUA community.
 
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PapiChulo

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"common sense" doesn't really apply here at all. What do you mean in particular?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Common sense in regards to woman is what the problem is, society has programmed most men to act like AFCs around girls and buy them flowers etc, this site is helping to reprogramme guys common and logic sense and ignore what we were hard wired to be like. Common sense was telling us we were doing something wrong with woman - somewhere along the line we were ****ing up... and so, one day we go on the internet and BOOM. DJ Bible, whats this??? GOLD!

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I was kind of referring to stuff like mysterys "kiss close" which negates common sense. When you realize that she likes you it's easier, to just ease into it. Also with numbers it's literally as easy as using either your environment or just talking about what your going to do that week and invite her out. Then there's getting sexaul with women and a lOt of those gurus get that wrong.
 
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Murse said:
Common sense in regards to woman is what the problem is, society has programmed most men to act like AFCs around girls and buy them flowers etc, this site is helping to reprogramme guys common and logic sense and ignore what we were hard wired to be like. Common sense was telling us we were doing something wrong with woman - somewhere along the line we were ****ing up... and so, one day we go on the internet and BOOM. DJ Bible, whats this??? GOLD!

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I have never done that. Yet again, I did well with women before the community.
 
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RedZone said:
Most people lack common sense...not just people in the PUA community.
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Agreed. I wasnt referring to the whole community, just a lot of the guys I've met up with. When I used to hang out with layer guys, they completed lacked it to the point that a lot of them I believe suffered from autism spectrum disorders. Even a lot of the coaches I've met, are the same way.
 
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I think many of us fall into the trap of giving "one size fits all" advice. Now, I will admit that many basics here are universal (i.e. don't smother her with communications, don't give her gifts too early, etc.), but many others are not. I see members here giving the same advice regarding an 18 year-old extroverted girl who likes to go clubbing, and a 38 year-old woman who is introverted and an experienced business professional. Sorry, but there is a huge (and obvious) difference between the two.

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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common sense can't be applied to all situations. I mean we're dealing with women here
 
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PapiChulo said:
"common sense" doesn't really apply here at all. What do you mean in particular?
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take for instance I say its common sense for you to understand that you probably shouldn't go for a make out with a girl who looks like she isn't interested. :nono: Ive seen guys I've met off forums in my area do this.
 
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It's common sense to know that if a girl says she has a bf, she is sending you a hint that she is unavailable/uninterested. But pua knowledge says that you can use push/pull and C&F to bring out her inner slut or something along those lines.
 
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The_411

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Bossman90 said:
Has anyone noticed that the most undeveloped trait of PU is common sense?
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No, it's more that too many guys believe in NAWALT.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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RedZone said:
Most people lack common sense...not just people in the PUA community.
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+1.
 
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