"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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O.k. what should I do?

Raptor

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If you read my other post you know my situtation. I asked a girl out who made a remark that she liked another guy but wasnt sure. I should have pointed this out earlier that I actually mentioned the guys name and she did not. I said ____ is kind of a different person. She then said something along the lines of I sort of like him but I dont know.

I then proceeded to mention going to look at Christmas lights. I then asked her if she would like to join me. ( I might not have made the clear in the first post) I forgot what my schedule was like for the week in finals. I told her that tonight we would finalize. She then suggested that we go see a movie. We were talking about Oceans 12 and she was like we should go see that after we are done looking at lights.

Conversation went well the rest of the night and BTW I flirt with her a good bit. Eye contact making jokes ETC. I leave for work in about 45 minutes and am open for tips on how to make myself have a better chance if I did something wrong.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I remember reading your story. Sounds like you have stepped it up a notch, but just remember what the others have told you, and advance slowly out of the "friend phase" dont know if youll succeed because it is a hard road to follow, but just make sure to do lots of kino and c+f!
 

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ok im sorry to be a pain.....but the DJ Bible link is dead can some explain what this lingo is
 

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kino = non-sexual touch (on the arm, hand, back, etc)
c+f = ****y and funny

Dude, don't worry about it too much. Just go on the fvcking date and remember to HAVE FUN! If you don't have fun, she won't and the date will turn out like 5hit.

If you have fun, you'll do well.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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