"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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O.k. what should I do?

Raptor

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If you read my other post you know my situtation. I asked a girl out who made a remark that she liked another guy but wasnt sure. I should have pointed this out earlier that I actually mentioned the guys name and she did not. I said ____ is kind of a different person. She then said something along the lines of I sort of like him but I dont know.

I then proceeded to mention going to look at Christmas lights. I then asked her if she would like to join me. ( I might not have made the clear in the first post) I forgot what my schedule was like for the week in finals. I told her that tonight we would finalize. She then suggested that we go see a movie. We were talking about Oceans 12 and she was like we should go see that after we are done looking at lights.

Conversation went well the rest of the night and BTW I flirt with her a good bit. Eye contact making jokes ETC. I leave for work in about 45 minutes and am open for tips on how to make myself have a better chance if I did something wrong.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I remember reading your story. Sounds like you have stepped it up a notch, but just remember what the others have told you, and advance slowly out of the "friend phase" dont know if youll succeed because it is a hard road to follow, but just make sure to do lots of kino and c+f!
 

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ok im sorry to be a pain.....but the DJ Bible link is dead can some explain what this lingo is
 

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kino = non-sexual touch (on the arm, hand, back, etc)
c+f = ****y and funny

Dude, don't worry about it too much. Just go on the fvcking date and remember to HAVE FUN! If you don't have fun, she won't and the date will turn out like 5hit.

If you have fun, you'll do well.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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