"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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NYPost - There’s no hope for men’ on dating apps, says man who can’t get a date

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IDK. When I was on apps three years ago, I literally had way too many numbers and girls interested. This was Bumble, OKStupid, JSwipe (sucker for big boobs) and Match. Anytime I went down to NYC or Stamford, loads of instant matches; and I'm just an average looking toad.. Not sure why so many dudes are having issues..
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I think it's because 90% of male profiles are the same and nothing really stands out. On top of that when I go to bars and people watch, a lot of young men are socially awkward. Everyone can improve, but most choose to complain.
 

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I eventually did better in OLD than cold approaching. I know a lot of members here do better with cold approaching and that´s cool but most of them bash OLD unnecesarily.
 

Atom Smasher

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I did pretty well with OLD. Found my wife there. However, it was a Christian site so there were definitely a few decent ones scattered about. Getting right with God definitely cleans up one’s character for the better.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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EyeBRollin

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IDK. When I was on apps three years ago, I literally had way too many numbers and girls interested. This was Bumble, OKStupid, JSwipe (sucker for big boobs) and Match. Anytime I went down to NYC or Stamford, loads of instant matches; and I'm just an average looking toad.. Not sure why so many dudes are having issues..
We have location privilege @RickTheToad. NYC Metro is 25 million people within a 100 mile radius. The only other areas in North America with those stats are LA and Mexico City.

Dating is a numbers game…
 

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If you’re travelling. Small towns are fine for Tinder meetups. But. Long term, the supply is limited.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I have exited dating apps. The ratios are too difficult. Tinder is 76% male and Hinge/Bumble are 65% male. Sausage fests.
 

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I still have no problems getting numbers, dates and lays.

If you group yourself in with the 95% of dudes on those sites then you get treated like the 95% of dudes on those sites
 

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I did pretty well with OLD. Found my wife there. However, it was a Christian site so there were definitely a few decent ones scattered about. Getting right with God definitely cleans up one’s character for the better.
I'm on a Christian site too, not really sending out emails, and not getting much traction there. Just seeing older women that I would not feel compatible with who are even viewing my profile. Too blah of an experience to even log in despite paying membership.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Tinder is awful here but its a rural area, tons of whales and feminists. Haven't tried Bumble or Hinge though. My friends do well on there.
 

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Still major metro areas. In Stamford metro area, never had much of a prob. either. Bridgeport, shooting fish in a barrel.
Dude, this is pure numbers. Chicago Metro is half the population of NYC and more spread out. Austin is not a major city at all.

Stamford and Bridgeport are part of NYC metro. There are at least 15 million people within 50 miles of both of those cities.
 

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Austin is not a major city at all. Austin is flat out tiny.
Austin is not tiny. It's the 28th largest metropolitan area in the USA. As of the 2020 US Census, the population is 2,352,426. To me, tiny would be under 100,000. There are plenty of dating options in Austin. In my opinion as a Texas resident, it's the most challenging mating market in the state. I have routined said that Austin and Dallas are the two most challenging markets in Texas.

 
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Austin is not tiny. It's the 28th largest metropolitan area in the USA. As of the 2020 US Census, the population is 2,352,426. To me, tiny would be under 100,000. There are plenty of dating options in Austin. In my opinion as a Texas resident, it's the most challenging mating market in the state. I have routined said that Austin and Dallas are the two most challenging markets in Texas.

Austin is dope, I've enjoyed the nightlife there. People are very welcoming so it can be a great pick-up spot. Super chill

If you live in a population of less than 100k, get your sh!t together and GTFO
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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