"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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NYPost - There’s no hope for men’ on dating apps, says man who can’t get a date

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IDK. When I was on apps three years ago, I literally had way too many numbers and girls interested. This was Bumble, OKStupid, JSwipe (sucker for big boobs) and Match. Anytime I went down to NYC or Stamford, loads of instant matches; and I'm just an average looking toad.. Not sure why so many dudes are having issues..
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I think it's because 90% of male profiles are the same and nothing really stands out. On top of that when I go to bars and people watch, a lot of young men are socially awkward. Everyone can improve, but most choose to complain.
 

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I eventually did better in OLD than cold approaching. I know a lot of members here do better with cold approaching and that´s cool but most of them bash OLD unnecesarily.
 

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I did pretty well with OLD. Found my wife there. However, it was a Christian site so there were definitely a few decent ones scattered about. Getting right with God definitely cleans up one’s character for the better.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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EyeBRollin

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IDK. When I was on apps three years ago, I literally had way too many numbers and girls interested. This was Bumble, OKStupid, JSwipe (sucker for big boobs) and Match. Anytime I went down to NYC or Stamford, loads of instant matches; and I'm just an average looking toad.. Not sure why so many dudes are having issues..
We have location privilege @RickTheToad. NYC Metro is 25 million people within a 100 mile radius. The only other areas in North America with those stats are LA and Mexico City.

Dating is a numbers game…
 

Hamurabimbi

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If you’re travelling. Small towns are fine for Tinder meetups. But. Long term, the supply is limited.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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SW15

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I have exited dating apps. The ratios are too difficult. Tinder is 76% male and Hinge/Bumble are 65% male. Sausage fests.
 

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I still have no problems getting numbers, dates and lays.

If you group yourself in with the 95% of dudes on those sites then you get treated like the 95% of dudes on those sites
 

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I did pretty well with OLD. Found my wife there. However, it was a Christian site so there were definitely a few decent ones scattered about. Getting right with God definitely cleans up one’s character for the better.
I'm on a Christian site too, not really sending out emails, and not getting much traction there. Just seeing older women that I would not feel compatible with who are even viewing my profile. Too blah of an experience to even log in despite paying membership.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Tinder is awful here but its a rural area, tons of whales and feminists. Haven't tried Bumble or Hinge though. My friends do well on there.
 

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Still major metro areas. In Stamford metro area, never had much of a prob. either. Bridgeport, shooting fish in a barrel.
Dude, this is pure numbers. Chicago Metro is half the population of NYC and more spread out. Austin is not a major city at all.

Stamford and Bridgeport are part of NYC metro. There are at least 15 million people within 50 miles of both of those cities.
 

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Austin is not a major city at all. Austin is flat out tiny.
Austin is not tiny. It's the 28th largest metropolitan area in the USA. As of the 2020 US Census, the population is 2,352,426. To me, tiny would be under 100,000. There are plenty of dating options in Austin. In my opinion as a Texas resident, it's the most challenging mating market in the state. I have routined said that Austin and Dallas are the two most challenging markets in Texas.

 
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Austin is not tiny. It's the 28th largest metropolitan area in the USA. As of the 2020 US Census, the population is 2,352,426. To me, tiny would be under 100,000. There are plenty of dating options in Austin. In my opinion as a Texas resident, it's the most challenging mating market in the state. I have routined said that Austin and Dallas are the two most challenging markets in Texas.

Austin is dope, I've enjoyed the nightlife there. People are very welcoming so it can be a great pick-up spot. Super chill

If you live in a population of less than 100k, get your sh!t together and GTFO
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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