"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
NY/NJ when is a good time for u?
- Thread starter daguru
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
SuperAlbert
Don Juan
Everyone else needs to be alot more serious on meeting up. I promise you guys that it's alot of fun and is not as hard as it looks when hittin on girls.
I'm actually on a roll these past few weeks. One example, 3 out of the 5 people of my group who went out for new years at LEAST made out with a random girl (I winged like a mf for these guys). I was actually one of the guys that hooked up with one of the girls. The other two were being big vaginas and that's the only reason why nothing happened because they did nothing.
So guys, I always sarge by myself on the weekends and the more people there are the merrier it'll be. Let's make something happen because I definitely am.
BlackAccord
Don Juan
Hydroblunt
Don Juan
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I'm definitely down if you guys are. How should we get in touch?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Don John NJ
Don Juan
Road Demon
Senior Don Juan
NYC is usually the program, with Hoboken the Quick option.
Don John NJ
Don Juan
Road Demon
Senior Don Juan
KingBeef
Master Don Juan
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
KingBeef
Master Don Juan
Drum&Bass
Master Don Juan
sure if your white/ age 23 - 27 pulling in 55 -70k a year, love bragging about what part of the world you just came back from/ thinking your smarter than everyone cause you think you know politics, and a total prick, hoboken kids are a different breed fuk em' and their yuppie holier than thou attitudes.Hoboken isn't that bad???
the Portuguese section of newark is cool, I just hung out wit prema last night and it was tight !! holla back woadies !
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
mahon83050
Banned
I'm from Jersey too! My boy actually lives in Hoboken and I like it up there alot. However, it is yuppy central, no doubt about that. It seems everyone who lives there is a lawyer or Wall Streeter! (I am neither)Drum&Bass said:sure if your white/ age 23 - 27 pulling in 55 -70k a year, love bragging about what part of the world you just came back from/ thinking your smarter than everyone cause you think you know politics, and a total prick, hoboken kids are a different breed fuk em' and their yuppie holier than thou attitudes.
the Portuguese section of newark is cool, I just hung out wit prema last night and it was tight !! holla back woadies !
I have been to Newark (Ironbound) section to go to some of the Portuguese restaurants there (they are great)
However, how are the bars in the Portuguese section? I mean, I can pass for Portuguese, but I am sure one has to speak the language?
KingBeef
Master Don Juan
funketekun
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I'm available on april 6 and 7. It will be cool to hang out with you like last time.
funketekun
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.