VegasGuy56
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To all the experienced DJs, do you close by getting a number or an e-mail (And why)?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Number or E-mail?
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Number is best, it is less hard to get a girl by calling her then emailing her. With email it can get lost or she can just delete it, but when someone calls you it is kind of hard to ignore the call isn't, like they say, curiosity kills the cat. Get the number if possible, I know myself it is hard to make a call, I like to email, it is easier for me. But GET THE NUMBER, you will probally do better.
strams4ever
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Personaly, I think i have a great voice and do well on the phone, I always get numbers. Email addresses or screen names can go either way..
Smooth Player 056
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David D.....claims email is much better.....personally I agre...I go for both
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Smooth Player 056
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HA!....KBJ.....I post so many FR's....I post at Mystery's Lounge and Masf.....and post audio FR's. I am part of SF's seduction LAIR......and go sarging with buds from the lair every weekend................so how am I a key board jockey again?Originally posted by whyshy
Get e-mail first because she is more willing to do so, then ask her number through e-mailing.
Glad to see that sosuave has a new keyboard jockey....(smooth)
I usually talk about school, and that is about it. I am not good with conversations, that is one of the reasons I am here. I also sound despriate and am not good at an approach or anything really. Right now I have this chicks emai and am not sure were to go from here, how to start out an email or keep it going and maybe get her phone. The one time before when I went from email to phone I just give her my phone and she gave me hers. What should I do?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
steroidsrule
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have patience and make yourself less available if you got her number... by askin for her number she knows your slightly interested and by making yourself less available... you create mystery for her... just dont talk to her everyday that kinda thing... AND HAVE PATIENCE this sorta thing takes more than a day to work... might take a month... but it WILL work if you play your cards right.. good hunting bro
Ok, lets see how this sounds to you to start things off with a first email, just to get the ball roling. "Hey, Whats Up, NMH. I was kinda bored and decided to email someone, I bet you can guess who the lucky person was. So how you doing in math class, I am doing great, much better then last 6 weeks. Hope to hear back from you soon, Kegger." Ok I think that sounds to needy or desperate, what do you think.
steroidsrule
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agree with vince... anyone can send a email.. few got enough balls to call a HB
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
So you're taking the easy way out?Originally posted by kegger
But I want to use the email to get a phone number.
SynapsyS
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Kegger: Jesus, man, "I just felt like emailing someone"?
Numbers EVERY time. You guys seem to forget that girls are people as well, they ask questions, and initiate threads of conversation as well. There is nothing to talking on the phone, a girl worth dating will start conversations and ask questions of you, it's not all about YOU having to ask questions. It's not an interview, ffs.
Plus, email is pretty lame. You can't act sexy and desirable via text, unless it's a letter, and you've been dating for years.
I vote numbers.
edit: Plus, asking for like, an MSN addy in highschool is practically instant friend-zoning. "Give me your number" has all the right connotations associated with it (it's the stereotypical start to a relationship, and girls know this), so that works in your favour.
Numbers EVERY time. You guys seem to forget that girls are people as well, they ask questions, and initiate threads of conversation as well. There is nothing to talking on the phone, a girl worth dating will start conversations and ask questions of you, it's not all about YOU having to ask questions. It's not an interview, ffs.
Plus, email is pretty lame. You can't act sexy and desirable via text, unless it's a letter, and you've been dating for years.
I vote numbers.
edit: Plus, asking for like, an MSN addy in highschool is practically instant friend-zoning. "Give me your number" has all the right connotations associated with it (it's the stereotypical start to a relationship, and girls know this), so that works in your favour.
SparkleMotion
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Getting a Email adress is definately easier when first starting out. But I feel kinda weird emailing a girl, tryin to set something up. So I usually just get the number. Since I'm more comfortable calling or texting a girl to set something up.
So I say number close.
So I say number close.
The-Sultan
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get any, doesnt matter.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.