VegasGuy56
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To all the experienced DJs, do you close by getting a number or an e-mail (And why)?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Number or E-mail?
- Thread starter VegasGuy56
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Number is best, it is less hard to get a girl by calling her then emailing her. With email it can get lost or she can just delete it, but when someone calls you it is kind of hard to ignore the call isn't, like they say, curiosity kills the cat. Get the number if possible, I know myself it is hard to make a call, I like to email, it is easier for me. But GET THE NUMBER, you will probally do better.
strams4ever
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Personaly, I think i have a great voice and do well on the phone, I always get numbers. Email addresses or screen names can go either way..
Smooth Player 056
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David D.....claims email is much better.....personally I agre...I go for both
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Smooth Player 056
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HA!....KBJ.....I post so many FR's....I post at Mystery's Lounge and Masf.....and post audio FR's. I am part of SF's seduction LAIR......and go sarging with buds from the lair every weekend................so how am I a key board jockey again?Originally posted by whyshy
Get e-mail first because she is more willing to do so, then ask her number through e-mailing.
Glad to see that sosuave has a new keyboard jockey....(smooth)
I usually talk about school, and that is about it. I am not good with conversations, that is one of the reasons I am here. I also sound despriate and am not good at an approach or anything really. Right now I have this chicks emai and am not sure were to go from here, how to start out an email or keep it going and maybe get her phone. The one time before when I went from email to phone I just give her my phone and she gave me hers. What should I do?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
steroidsrule
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have patience and make yourself less available if you got her number... by askin for her number she knows your slightly interested and by making yourself less available... you create mystery for her... just dont talk to her everyday that kinda thing... AND HAVE PATIENCE this sorta thing takes more than a day to work... might take a month... but it WILL work if you play your cards right.. good hunting bro
Ok, lets see how this sounds to you to start things off with a first email, just to get the ball roling. "Hey, Whats Up, NMH. I was kinda bored and decided to email someone, I bet you can guess who the lucky person was. So how you doing in math class, I am doing great, much better then last 6 weeks. Hope to hear back from you soon, Kegger." Ok I think that sounds to needy or desperate, what do you think.
steroidsrule
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agree with vince... anyone can send a email.. few got enough balls to call a HB
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
So you're taking the easy way out?Originally posted by kegger
But I want to use the email to get a phone number.
SynapsyS
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Kegger: Jesus, man, "I just felt like emailing someone"?
Numbers EVERY time. You guys seem to forget that girls are people as well, they ask questions, and initiate threads of conversation as well. There is nothing to talking on the phone, a girl worth dating will start conversations and ask questions of you, it's not all about YOU having to ask questions. It's not an interview, ffs.
Plus, email is pretty lame. You can't act sexy and desirable via text, unless it's a letter, and you've been dating for years.
I vote numbers.
edit: Plus, asking for like, an MSN addy in highschool is practically instant friend-zoning. "Give me your number" has all the right connotations associated with it (it's the stereotypical start to a relationship, and girls know this), so that works in your favour.
Numbers EVERY time. You guys seem to forget that girls are people as well, they ask questions, and initiate threads of conversation as well. There is nothing to talking on the phone, a girl worth dating will start conversations and ask questions of you, it's not all about YOU having to ask questions. It's not an interview, ffs.
Plus, email is pretty lame. You can't act sexy and desirable via text, unless it's a letter, and you've been dating for years.
I vote numbers.
edit: Plus, asking for like, an MSN addy in highschool is practically instant friend-zoning. "Give me your number" has all the right connotations associated with it (it's the stereotypical start to a relationship, and girls know this), so that works in your favour.
SparkleMotion
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Getting a Email adress is definately easier when first starting out. But I feel kinda weird emailing a girl, tryin to set something up. So I usually just get the number. Since I'm more comfortable calling or texting a girl to set something up.
So I say number close.
So I say number close.
The-Sultan
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get any, doesnt matter.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.