VegasGuy56
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To all the experienced DJs, do you close by getting a number or an e-mail (And why)?
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Number or E-mail?
- Thread starter VegasGuy56
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Number is best, it is less hard to get a girl by calling her then emailing her. With email it can get lost or she can just delete it, but when someone calls you it is kind of hard to ignore the call isn't, like they say, curiosity kills the cat. Get the number if possible, I know myself it is hard to make a call, I like to email, it is easier for me. But GET THE NUMBER, you will probally do better.
strams4ever
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Personaly, I think i have a great voice and do well on the phone, I always get numbers. Email addresses or screen names can go either way..
Smooth Player 056
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David D.....claims email is much better.....personally I agre...I go for both
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Smooth Player 056
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HA!....KBJ.....I post so many FR's....I post at Mystery's Lounge and Masf.....and post audio FR's. I am part of SF's seduction LAIR......and go sarging with buds from the lair every weekend................so how am I a key board jockey again?Originally posted by whyshy
Get e-mail first because she is more willing to do so, then ask her number through e-mailing.
Glad to see that sosuave has a new keyboard jockey....(smooth)
I usually talk about school, and that is about it. I am not good with conversations, that is one of the reasons I am here. I also sound despriate and am not good at an approach or anything really. Right now I have this chicks emai and am not sure were to go from here, how to start out an email or keep it going and maybe get her phone. The one time before when I went from email to phone I just give her my phone and she gave me hers. What should I do?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
steroidsrule
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have patience and make yourself less available if you got her number... by askin for her number she knows your slightly interested and by making yourself less available... you create mystery for her... just dont talk to her everyday that kinda thing... AND HAVE PATIENCE this sorta thing takes more than a day to work... might take a month... but it WILL work if you play your cards right.. good hunting bro
Ok, lets see how this sounds to you to start things off with a first email, just to get the ball roling. "Hey, Whats Up, NMH. I was kinda bored and decided to email someone, I bet you can guess who the lucky person was. So how you doing in math class, I am doing great, much better then last 6 weeks. Hope to hear back from you soon, Kegger." Ok I think that sounds to needy or desperate, what do you think.
steroidsrule
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agree with vince... anyone can send a email.. few got enough balls to call a HB
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
So you're taking the easy way out?Originally posted by kegger
But I want to use the email to get a phone number.
SynapsyS
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Kegger: Jesus, man, "I just felt like emailing someone"?
Numbers EVERY time. You guys seem to forget that girls are people as well, they ask questions, and initiate threads of conversation as well. There is nothing to talking on the phone, a girl worth dating will start conversations and ask questions of you, it's not all about YOU having to ask questions. It's not an interview, ffs.
Plus, email is pretty lame. You can't act sexy and desirable via text, unless it's a letter, and you've been dating for years.
I vote numbers.
edit: Plus, asking for like, an MSN addy in highschool is practically instant friend-zoning. "Give me your number" has all the right connotations associated with it (it's the stereotypical start to a relationship, and girls know this), so that works in your favour.
Numbers EVERY time. You guys seem to forget that girls are people as well, they ask questions, and initiate threads of conversation as well. There is nothing to talking on the phone, a girl worth dating will start conversations and ask questions of you, it's not all about YOU having to ask questions. It's not an interview, ffs.
Plus, email is pretty lame. You can't act sexy and desirable via text, unless it's a letter, and you've been dating for years.
I vote numbers.
edit: Plus, asking for like, an MSN addy in highschool is practically instant friend-zoning. "Give me your number" has all the right connotations associated with it (it's the stereotypical start to a relationship, and girls know this), so that works in your favour.
SparkleMotion
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Getting a Email adress is definately easier when first starting out. But I feel kinda weird emailing a girl, tryin to set something up. So I usually just get the number. Since I'm more comfortable calling or texting a girl to set something up.
So I say number close.
So I say number close.
The-Sultan
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get any, doesnt matter.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.