Alright so this girl I've been trying to **** around with has been fine at texting me back till this week when we actually did **** around for the first time, and **** even the next day after we hooked up she texted me first. But after that she has been terrible, she told me that night she wanted to hangout on Friday and then never texted me, and now today we were supposed to drop cid together and she picked the day and I joked about "well you better text back" and now here we are and she won't even text me back when I ask her if she wants to hang out at 6. I know I'm ranting and I apologize but what the **** do I do! It seems like every time I get close something changes and then they either don't text back or act differently, I honestly don't understand what I'm doing wrong so please help
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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- Thread starter JDJ
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Tictac
Banned
Wait. If she's not texting, she's not texting. You're not supposed to do anything about her.
Meanwhile, get back out there.
If she calls, you should already be busy with other stuff.
Meanwhile, get back out there.
If she calls, you should already be busy with other stuff.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Tictac
Banned
___________JDJ said:
What's submissive is you sniffing around like a puppy waiting for her to text you. You offered, she balked.
Go do what makes you happy.
GS750
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What's better, waiting to hear from her or blowing up her phone with texts acting all needy and sh*t? Some girls, especially girls in their 20's, are time wasters and have the attention span of a pocket mouse. Thank social media.
GS750
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Stick around. The guys here, for the most part, will never steer you wrong. One thing is that you have to reprogram yourself and change your behaviors and belief system. A lot of times, your first knee jerk reaction to something isn't the best way to handle things with the ladies. Most guys here have made the same mistakes. My advice with this girl, for the time being, is to do nothing. Occupy yourself with something else.JDJ said:
Works better if you text her 1-2 days before, and then suggest a specific activity that you will be doing. That way, if you don't hear back by Friday then you won't be stressed out about it and you can plan something else without her.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Wisconsin144
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Find a new girl. She isn't going to value the time then find someone who will. Girls tend to flake, so delete her number and find a new girl.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
usernamedox11
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text her this "you flake on me b1tch? u bipolar b1tch, u need meds. i had a bet with my friend i was gonna get u to do a threesome with me and his girl...u cost me money b1tch"
then block and delete her number, don't deal with flakes, not worth your time.
then block and delete her number, don't deal with flakes, not worth your time.