Alright so this girl I've been trying to **** around with has been fine at texting me back till this week when we actually did **** around for the first time, and **** even the next day after we hooked up she texted me first. But after that she has been terrible, she told me that night she wanted to hangout on Friday and then never texted me, and now today we were supposed to drop cid together and she picked the day and I joked about "well you better text back" and now here we are and she won't even text me back when I ask her if she wants to hang out at 6. I know I'm ranting and I apologize but what the **** do I do! It seems like every time I get close something changes and then they either don't text back or act differently, I honestly don't understand what I'm doing wrong so please help
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
not texting back
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Tictac
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Wait. If she's not texting, she's not texting. You're not supposed to do anything about her.
Meanwhile, get back out there.
If she calls, you should already be busy with other stuff.
Meanwhile, get back out there.
If she calls, you should already be busy with other stuff.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Tictac
Banned
___________JDJ said:
What's submissive is you sniffing around like a puppy waiting for her to text you. You offered, she balked.
Go do what makes you happy.
GS750
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What's better, waiting to hear from her or blowing up her phone with texts acting all needy and sh*t? Some girls, especially girls in their 20's, are time wasters and have the attention span of a pocket mouse. Thank social media.
GS750
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Stick around. The guys here, for the most part, will never steer you wrong. One thing is that you have to reprogram yourself and change your behaviors and belief system. A lot of times, your first knee jerk reaction to something isn't the best way to handle things with the ladies. Most guys here have made the same mistakes. My advice with this girl, for the time being, is to do nothing. Occupy yourself with something else.JDJ said:
Works better if you text her 1-2 days before, and then suggest a specific activity that you will be doing. That way, if you don't hear back by Friday then you won't be stressed out about it and you can plan something else without her.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Wisconsin144
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Find a new girl. She isn't going to value the time then find someone who will. Girls tend to flake, so delete her number and find a new girl.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
usernamedox11
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text her this "you flake on me b1tch? u bipolar b1tch, u need meds. i had a bet with my friend i was gonna get u to do a threesome with me and his girl...u cost me money b1tch"
then block and delete her number, don't deal with flakes, not worth your time.
then block and delete her number, don't deal with flakes, not worth your time.