Alright so this girl I've been trying to **** around with has been fine at texting me back till this week when we actually did **** around for the first time, and **** even the next day after we hooked up she texted me first. But after that she has been terrible, she told me that night she wanted to hangout on Friday and then never texted me, and now today we were supposed to drop cid together and she picked the day and I joked about "well you better text back" and now here we are and she won't even text me back when I ask her if she wants to hang out at 6. I know I'm ranting and I apologize but what the **** do I do! It seems like every time I get close something changes and then they either don't text back or act differently, I honestly don't understand what I'm doing wrong so please help
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Tictac
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Wait. If she's not texting, she's not texting. You're not supposed to do anything about her.
Meanwhile, get back out there.
If she calls, you should already be busy with other stuff.
Meanwhile, get back out there.
If she calls, you should already be busy with other stuff.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Tictac
Banned
___________JDJ said:
What's submissive is you sniffing around like a puppy waiting for her to text you. You offered, she balked.
Go do what makes you happy.
GS750
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What's better, waiting to hear from her or blowing up her phone with texts acting all needy and sh*t? Some girls, especially girls in their 20's, are time wasters and have the attention span of a pocket mouse. Thank social media.
GS750
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Stick around. The guys here, for the most part, will never steer you wrong. One thing is that you have to reprogram yourself and change your behaviors and belief system. A lot of times, your first knee jerk reaction to something isn't the best way to handle things with the ladies. Most guys here have made the same mistakes. My advice with this girl, for the time being, is to do nothing. Occupy yourself with something else.JDJ said:
Works better if you text her 1-2 days before, and then suggest a specific activity that you will be doing. That way, if you don't hear back by Friday then you won't be stressed out about it and you can plan something else without her.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Wisconsin144
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Find a new girl. She isn't going to value the time then find someone who will. Girls tend to flake, so delete her number and find a new girl.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
usernamedox11
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text her this "you flake on me b1tch? u bipolar b1tch, u need meds. i had a bet with my friend i was gonna get u to do a threesome with me and his girl...u cost me money b1tch"
then block and delete her number, don't deal with flakes, not worth your time.
then block and delete her number, don't deal with flakes, not worth your time.