Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Because every other bozo who happens to "score" her number is falling over himself to call his new found prize.Jumpman23 said:Normally, I always return phone calls, b/c I am a nice guy. It is part of my conscious. How is it, when you don't initially return a girls phone call and keep the girl waiting. But maybe wait a day or too. From what I see on the board That is supposed to stimulate her interest, by keeping her waiting.
Trying to understand, b/c my perspective is from the "nice guy."
The problem there is that sometimes i don't want to wait, it is really hard to resist the temptation of calling a girl you know is interested. Im actually having a similar situation but the girl didn't return my call after she picked up the phone and told me she was shopping with her mom and would call me as soon as she got home around 8ish.( . )( . ) said:I believe If you leave a good enough impression the first time you can wait as long as you want.
this is almost harsh. Basically, it puts the power in your hands. Part of me believes in having good phone call etiquette and returning her call.( . )( . ) said:Because every other bozo who happens to "score" her number is falling over himself to call his new found prize.
You on the other hand are the prize, and you call if and when she gets lucky enough to hear your voice.
The longest I've personally waited from the first initial meeting is 6 months believe it or not and got some nice sex, mind you she nexted me once she realised I was still a bit of a loser and had no prospects, but thats neither here nor there.
I believe If you leave a good enough impression the first time you can wait as long as you want.
You should not be returning her call anyway. Why does she even have your number?Jumpman23 said:this is almost harsh. Basically, it puts the power in your hands. Part of me believes in having good phone call etiquette and returning her call.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
I called her Thurs. to go out w/ some friends. waiting for her to call that night. She was actually working that night until 9. but Didn't call or text me until Friday, night, my phone was off. But she calls me tonight, but I am actually out of town anyways.( . )( . ) said:You should not be returning her call anyway. Why does she even have your number?
You get her number, you call, set up the meeting and goodnight Irene.
After that the phone dramas SHOULD be over. Everything else is masturbation.